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People listen in on obvious first dates in bars and restaurants, too. Been there, done that. It's often quite obvious when it's a first/blind date. Doesn't matter if it's a cafe or not.
hahah yeah exactly, I always try to listen in on dates
My fiance and I only speak Spanish so we can analyze people's dates and what they're thinking and we don't even have to worry about them understanding.
All first/blind dates where it becomes apparent early on that it's not happening contain (at least) an element of the awkward, by nature. Doesn't matter where they take place, what's being served, or what the activity is.
If you identify prior to the end of date #1 that it's not happening, it's easier to walk away from a casual date that consisted of a cup of coffee/tea/whatever and feel like nobody's really out time or money or dignity than if you go out whole hog on some costly, elaborate date with a big bar bill, meal provided, etc. that sucked up a whole evening. At most, you're out maybe an hour and the cost of a cup of coffee. It's low stakes. Not all first dates are. This is appealing to some.
I don't get why coffee date are hated.
I had two guys whine when I suggest it.
Guys hating coffee dates?? Completely new to me.
My guess is that these dudes are really using that excuse to cover up the
fact that they have poor conversational skills. Some guys cannot keep a conversation
going with a woman if their lives depended on it.
Makes no sense to me. Why would any man shy away from a date that costs him less than $5.
All first/blind dates where it becomes apparent early on that it's not happening contain (at least) an element of the awkward, by nature. Doesn't matter where they take place, what's being served, or what the activity is.
If you identify prior to the end of date #1 that it's not happening, it's easier to walk away from a casual date that consisted of a cup of coffee/tea/whatever and feel like nobody's really out time or money or dignity than if you go out whole hog on some costly, elaborate date with a big bar bill, meal provided, etc. that sucked up a whole evening. At most, you're out maybe an hour and the cost of a cup of coffee. It's low stakes. Not all first dates are. This is appealing to some.
Being new to OLD it takes time to develop those skills to handle graceful rejection when you realize you're not a good fit.
What's tough for me is balancing getting to know someone to determine fit and feeling like you're being interrogated.
I don't like how some women are so direct and probing...........we just met don't expect me to divulge my entire life right off we are here to meet/date not screening for marriage proposal.
IDK. If I'm into him, I don't care if we're at a tractor pull (although I'm not quite sure what a tractor pull consists of); I just want to get to know him better, and the setting is irrelevant.
IDK. If I'm into him, I don't care if we're at a tractor pull (although I'm not quite sure what a tractor pull consists of); I just want to get to know him better, and the setting is irrelevant.
Good post. When a woman responds like you do I know we have potential and it shows their interested.
I hope some guys really struggling read this post of yours because it's a good qualifier IMO.
What's tough for me is balancing getting to know someone to determine fit and feeling like you're being interrogated.
I don't like how some women are so direct and probing...........we just met don't expect me to divulge my entire life right off we are here to meet/date not screening for marriage proposal.
What do you think a first-time meeting should involve, information-wise, with somebody about whom you know very little, and wish to assess whether or not you should continue to see him/her? How do you get to know one another better without a lot of conversation time, which typically involves a good number of questions?
Honest question.
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