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If you're a flirt, do you tend to flirt with everyone? Or do you generally just flirt with those you find attractive? Are you even aware you're doing it, is it intentional or is it subconscious?
If you're in LTR/Married, did that change things for you or is just a part of your personality?
I am not a "self proclaimed flirt" but my wife thinks Im a flirt. To me, I just see it as being nice and open to people. I dont think I am aware of it with most people, but sometimes I think I do it more to the more attractive women. But for the most part, its just part of my personality.
The wife says "You always seem to find and talk to the cutest and sexiest women dont you?". I just tell her "Hey, Im a friendly guy and people seem to like me".
I think I do it with everyone. I'm aware when I'm doing it on purpose (which I don't anymore because I'm happily married) but I think that something about my natural demeanor comes off as flirtatious because people still think I'm a flirt.
I don't think it's necessarily intentional, but more a case of not realizing how my personality can come across. I grew up in an all-male environment, so I'm most comfortable palling around with the guys... but then I remember "Oh wait, I'm a grown up; it doesn't work that way anymore." I just love men in general but, ironically, I make a concerted effort not to pal around too much if I'm really attracted to someone... I guess because at that point it's not just being friendly anymore, and I don't want to cross that line. As far as the Mr. goes... he's got [URL="http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Kavorka"]the kavorka[/URL], so women of all ages flirt with him constantly, but he's a good boy.
Personally I don't think I am, and believe I am way too shy to flirt. My friends tell me my demeanor comes off as very flirtatious when I talk to men. They say I have a certain "look", accompanied by the fact that I am constantly laughing, smiling, and joking. I typically do that with anyone, that's just how I am around people when I get comfortable.
Most men I have been attracted to...I never had to intetionally flirt. If I did, it just came naturally. To me it's all about being comfortable and organic. I am NOT an expert, but flirting is not that difficult. In fact, if every guy I talk to believes I am flirting with them, then it's extremely easy.
I'm a natural flirt and flirt with people I'm attracted to and/or people who pretty much understand that I'm just having fun and don't take it to mean I'm especially interested if that makes sense. I try to be careful not to give anyone the wrong impression.
I am open and highly social, to me that isn't flirting. That's just being friendly. I'm like that with most anyone, and it used to annoy me half to death when someone implied that I should in any fashion restrict that due to being married. I don't need a chaperone to talk to a male person in the world, I'm not going home with him or something just because we're passing small talk about the weather, or having even a discussion on any sort of topic.
However, there are settings where I loosen up and play, and there I am definitely and deliberately a flirt. I sling and catch innuendo, I imply things. I usually do this with people I find attractive, or people that I've been friends with for a very long time so they know I'm only joking. When I was married, I would do this with my GWAR friends on trips away from home. Was I flirting with some of those people? Sure. Did they expect I'd follow through? Not a chance. I read people well, and the ones that might actually try and follow-up were the ones I kept rock solid boundaries in place with. Take for instance this one photographer friend...he and I flirted a lot. But he knew I was married and I knew I wasn't his type (he actually prefers men, I think, he is bi though, and he gets gorgeous women, he's kinda out of my league.) But we jokingly flirted a lot, we are very friendly, it goes as far as sneaking up and tickling the other person or something...zero expectation of sex--even if I wanted to, I don't think he would. He was "safe" to play those games with. Still I was always situationally aware and never alone with anyone.
So there have been times I've enjoyed that kind of interaction, but I try to be careful and structure them for safety and make sure it's all entertainment, no engagement.
If I'm going to have sex with someone, I don't need to flirt. I just tell them. I'm not a kid anymore, so if I play that game, I play it in earnest, cards on the table and no BS.
I used to flirt constantly, & shamelessly
with people who flirted with me spontaneasly.........
But 2 things changed:
#1 What I do for a living--
I cannot mix business & pleasure......
too unprofessional.
#2 The constant flow of married men who
shamelessly flirt & aggressively pursuit me......
That seriously makes me disgusted
when I see any married people flirting.....
BTW its just as bad with married women
flirting & actively trying to bed
down my good looking male friends.
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