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But she ended things with him for now. She hasn't deleted or blocked him from anything, but she has stopped things before they went further. Hopefully, she won't cave and be drawn in again.
a) OP isn't friend with her friend's girlfriend and doesn't want to become one. She knew the guy for longer than that girl and might have some feelings for him, and he might have some for her. So, I wouldn't care about well-being or feelings of some person who I don't even know if my happiness depends on it.
b) Girlfriend ain't wife with children. Would children be involved, I'd say shut the guy out, for he will be tied to his children one way or another and bring his drama.
c) It's my attitude and I don't think I care if you're my friend or not.
I also think, that it's not smart to cheat on the back of the guys' GF... He must chose first who he wants to be with. Otherwise, he'll run back to GF after the first night. Unless, of course, it's what OP wants.
Well...
brrabbit:
If I was stills single, I would not want to date you given your attitude.
But she ended things with him for now. She hasn't deleted or blocked him from anything, but she has stopped things before they went further. Hopefully, she won't cave and be drawn in again.
She's good.
VanillaChocolate
This is in reference to the relationship between the guy in the OP's post and his girlfriend.
We do not know the girlfriend's side of the story.
There seems to be real compassion between OP and the guy. The other girl... Well, we don't know really what they have, maybe just sex and nothing else.
What the "other girl" has is him. SHE is the girlfriend, no matter what smooth talking this dude is doing with the OP.
All the OP is lining up to be is pumped and dumped. With 'compassion' of course.
Anyone who hides you? Doesnt deserve your time....
It is foolish to say your friends..because friends are not inappropriate with one another there are no boundaries crossed..the fact that you two are jor long time friends should be an indicator.. you two are not FRIENDS..
HE is contacting you behind his girls back...secrets never amount to anything good...
THE fact that he complains about his SO to you? Means that he is ysing you to vent...being sexual or flirtatious means that he does not value you let alone his relationship..
He uses you as a distraction..
You stated some things that make me think you are a smart girl...you stated "it feels wrong"
And the anticipation of him leaving his gf may make room for you to get in there?
Do you really want to play second fiddle?
Hes texting you when he feels like it but he is physically with her..
You also stated that what makes you think he wont do this to you? Thats what stood out most to me...
To me? Someone ill begotten will finish in the same fashion...
Your getting a unique oppurtunity to look at your future with this guy if you continue. What makes you so special? You arent sorry...
My advice to you?
Cut of all contact with him...it may be hard at first but worth it..
YOU can tell him why if it makes you feel better..
I wish you the best of luck.
What the "other girl" has is him. SHE is the girlfriend, no matter what smooth talking this dude is doing with the OP.
All the OP is lining up to be is pumped and dumped. With 'compassion' of course.
Ladies, his girlfriend doesn't own him. That's the problem with your attitude. Therefore, if OP wants to meat with the guy, she's not stealing anything. He's a big boy and whatever blame is there to be, lays on him. If he cheats, he cheats, not the OP. OP is just having good time with a guy whom she seems to like.
She decided to break off with him. Her choice. I'd say it's probably the smartest choice, but not because she has no right to talk to that guy, more because he's not likely to break away from his GF if he didn't do it already.
Ladies, his girlfriend doesn't own him. That's the problem with your attitude. Therefore, if OP wants to meat with the guy, she's not stealing anything. He's a big boy and whatever blame is there to be, lays on him. If he cheats, he cheats, not the OP. OP is just having good time with a guy whom she seems to like.
Nope.
The definition of cheating is getting a reward through dishonesty, or acting unfairly to gain an advantage. The OP is certainly doing both.
If a single person is involved with a committed person, to the point that the single person would have to lie upon meeting the SO, they are definitely cheating too.
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