Sorry if this is a long post but I can't get a good answer without explaining the situation.
I'll start this off with some background. I just graduated college with my (now ex) girlfriend. In my mind we were perfect together and I did and still do love her more than anything I ever have. We were the same major, had the same interests, and really connected. We were together for 2 years and rarely fought or had major disagreements and had a very healthy relationship. I was constructing my whole life so that we could be together and have a future. I literally thought this girl was the one.
Just over three weeks ago she broke up with me out of the blue. She said that she still loved me which made it harder for both of us. She just said that she had focused on me and school for so long that she lost her own independence and needed to figure out what she really liked to do that would make her the happiest she could be. Or something along those lines, the reasons were confusing but she did say that she still loved me but we just need space for now. Her friends moved away and I was pretty much who she had here which makes it more confusing.
I took the breakup badly and still am depressed. I was supposed to live with her temporarily while I found a new house to live in and to make things worse I dislocated my knee 2 days after and couldn't walk and had to stay in a hotel alone. Now I just moved into a new house with some friends and we are five blocks away
so it would have been perfect.
None of us ever cheated if that helps too. I think that she was confused during her transition to the real world and ended it because of that.
Here's what I've done so far with the hopes of getting her back.
-I've given her a lot of space. I cut all communications for three weeks and than sent one warm text hoping she was doing well and that I'm living close to her so we might accidentally bump into each other once and a while and hope that we can be amicable. She responded pretty quickly and said told me that she would see me around and hoped I was doing well etc...
-I'm on the verge of getting a career job where we live. When that happens (hopefully in 2-3 weeks) I'm going to reach out again and ask to go to lunch or something. Nothing serious, just casual and not talk about relationship or anything like that.
-If she agrees to that I'll do it again maybe a week or so after and make that a reoccurring thing. Than I'll ask her out. Hopefully by than she will have sorted herself out and will want me back.
I'm prepared to move on after I try these things, and I'll never get her back if I don't at least try. My mom did the same thing to my dad, she up and left for a different state and look at them now...married for decades.
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