Sketchy May Be A Problem (girls, cheated, college, advice)

[cindersslipper]

ive had 2 threads about sketchy now.

The most recent was about the funeral of a mutual friend, his bff, should I go or shouldn't I.

Well, I didn't, and I was glad.

I could've gone out Friday night, but he would've been there, so I didn't go there either.

I was planning to go out Saturday night, realized he may well be there, so decided to stay home then too.

Today (Sunday, my regular Day Out), of course, I want to go out...and yet again, he's likely to be there. Even MORE likely to be there than the gig yesterday.

How much longer do I have to quit my life for this guy?

[luv my dayton]

Originally Posted by cindersslipper

ive had 2 threads about sketchy now.

The most recent was about the funeral of a mutual friend, his bff, should i go or shouldn't i.

Well, i didn't, and i was glad.

I could've gone out friday night, but he would've been there, so i didn't go there either.

I was planning to go out saturday night, realized he may well be there, so decided to stay home then too.

Today (sunday, my regular day out), of course, i want to go out...and yet again, he's likely to be there. Even more likely to be there than the gig yesterday.

How much longer do i have to quit my life for this guy?

what?

[cindersslipper]

The advice was Avoid Him.

The problem is - he's everywhere I go.

[thinkalot]

Originally Posted by cindersslipper

The advice was Avoid Him.

The problem is - he's everywhere I go.

Then go to different places.

[Bloke2611]

Go and avoid him. Focus your attention on someone else.

[cindersslipper]

Originally Posted by thinkalot

Then go to different places.

I can't. I live in the worlds biggest village.

If I go out, chances are I'm going to run into him.

And why should I anyway? it wasn't me who did anything wrong in the relationship, it was him who wrecked it!

I'll just go and ride with it. What I'm really nervous about is getting sucked back in. I have major abandonment issues.

[Lostandhurt]

Originally Posted by cindersslipper

ive had 2 threads about sketchy now.

The most recent was about the funeral of a mutual friend, his bff, should I go or shouldn't I.

Well, I didn't, and I was glad.

I could've gone out Friday night, but he would've been there, so I didn't go there either.

I was planning to go out Saturday night, realized he may well be there, so decided to stay home then too.

Today (Sunday, my regular Day Out), of course, I want to go out...and yet again, he's likely to be there. Even MORE likely to be there than the gig yesterday.

How much longer do I have to quit my life for this guy?

Haha I'm with you on that. For a while I avoided everywhere I thought my ex might be. Than I realized that I can't let her dictate my life because she broke up with me and I can go wherever I want to.

I live in a small college town with only 4-5 bars where bar hopping is very common. Will I probably see my ex down there? Yes. But avoiding having fun with my friends is not the right solution I believe. I'm going to live my life as I see fit regardless of whether some ex may or may not be there.

If she is than screw it there will be 50 other girls I can talk to, go for.

[CSD610]

Originally Posted by cindersslipper

ive had 2 threads about sketchy now.

The most recent was about the funeral of a mutual friend, his bff, should I go or shouldn't I.

Well, I didn't, and I was glad.

I could've gone out Friday night, but he would've been there, so I didn't go there either.

I was planning to go out Saturday night, realized he may well be there, so decided to stay home then too.

Today (Sunday, my regular Day Out), of course, I want to go out...and yet again, he's likely to be there. Even MORE likely to be there than the gig yesterday.

How much longer do I have to quit my life for this guy?

How much longer are you willing to allow him to control your life?

[cindersslipper]

Ok just an update for anyone who cares -

I went to the gig yesterday and THERE HE WAS.

I avoided him like the plague for the first 2 hours.

Then I walked straight into him. He'd been waiting for me by the door and sprung.

Well now. It all went down like I thought it might.

Come home with me, I never cheated, blah blah blah.

Well if you've been following the threads you'll know his BFF died and the funeral was Thursday - I didn't go bc I didn't want to see sketchy.

So I got, "why weren't you at the funeral?" so I told him why.

Then I got "why did you ignore my birthday" <<<he was 51 the next day.

Gee I dunno sketchy maybe it had something to do with the fact YOU hadn't called ME for a month, and went to bed with an utter skank!

Anyway its all back on. We have some talking to do but we are both kidding ourselves if we think we're done with each other.

Stood in a busy loud pub and we could've been the only 2 people in the room...!

[Katnan]

Originally Posted by cindersslipper

Ok just an update for anyone who cares -

I went to the gig yesterday and THERE HE WAS.

I avoided him like the plague for the first 2 hours.

Then I walked straight into him. He'd been waiting for me by the door and sprung.

Well now. It all went down like I thought it might.

Come home with me, I never cheated, blah blah blah.

Well if you've been following the threads you'll know his BFF died and the funeral was Thursday - I didn't go bc I didn't want to see sketchy.

So I got, "why weren't you at the funeral?" so I told him why.

Then I got "why did you ignore my birthday" <<<he was 51 the next day.

Gee I dunno sketchy maybe it had something to do with the fact YOU hadn't called ME for a month, and went to bed with an utter skank!

Anyway its all back on. We have some talking to do but we are both kidding ourselves if we think we're done with each other.

Stood in a busy loud pub and we could've been the only 2 people in the room...!

What a mess. You really should seek help for your abandonment issues.