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Guess its more of a lesson for me to not be as invested in people as early on but, met someone at a friend's function that i hit it off with. Got her number and set up a date. Had a great time, spent a few hours at a bar getting drinks, kissed after. Seemed like we had great chemistry and a lot in common. Following week set up a date to get sushi. Same thing have a good time, go out after to meet her friend at a bar and grab a few drinks, ends up kissing me again and telling me about something at a bar to come out to a few days later.
Follow up that day and she says she is too tired from the week and has to get up early so i say ok. I wait a few days later and try and set up another date but she responds that she is coming up on her busy time of year for work as she runs her own business making and selling crafts and with christmas coming up she doesnt really have time to go out with anyone.
I'm kinda confused and wonder if this is more of an excuse or if i should really just take this at face value. I said no problem and to let me know if her schedule dies down or wants to go out again. I wasnt texting her constantly so i dont think i was being needy and i felt the dates were great so kinda scratching my head but I guess in the end whether it was a valid excuse or not, its over for now.
Guess its more of a lesson for me to not be as invested in people as early on but, met someone at a friend's function that i hit it off with. Got her number and set up a date. Had a great time, spent a few hours at a bar getting drinks, kissed after. Seemed like we had great chemistry and a lot in common. Following week set up a date to get sushi. Same thing have a good time, go out after to meet her friend at a bar and grab a few drinks, ends up kissing me again and telling me about something at a bar to come out to a few days later.
Follow up that day and she says she is too tired from the week and has to get up early so i say ok. I wait a few days later and try and set up another date but she responds that she is coming up on her busy time of year for work as she runs her own business making and selling crafts and with christmas coming up she doesnt really have time to go out with anyone.
I'm kinda confused and wonder if this is more of an excuse or if i should really just take this at face value. I said no problem and to let me know if her schedule dies down or wants to go out again. I wasnt texting her constantly so i dont think i was being needy and i felt the dates were great so kinda scratching my head but I guess in the end whether it was a valid excuse or not, its over for now.
IMO, she has lost interest in continuing to see you and is using other reasons (work picking up, etc.) to soften the blow/as excuses. I would agree that it's over, at least for now.
I would highly recommend that you refrain from contacting her moving forward, unless it's in response to contact she initiates with you.
Stuff like this happens fairly often. From what you've stated, I don't think you've done anything wrong or have anything to be ashamed of per se. When you enjoy someone's company, you enjoy their company and hope to see that person again and again moving forward. One of the biggest mistake you could make moving forward would be continuing to stay in touch with this person and, more importantly, asking her out again. So long as you leave her alone, you've acted appropriately.
Sorry this happened to you -- it's very frustrating but don't let it bother you too much.
Well, perhaps you had a great time, but she was just being polite?
Obviously she is too "busy" to go out with you again. She just don't have the guts to tell you that she isn't interested anymore. Whatever is her reason...
yeah i kinda figured it was just an excuse. Just dont really understand why she would kiss me or even bother inviting me out after if she wasnt really interested.
yeah i kinda figured it was just an excuse. Just dont really understand why she would kiss me or even bother inviting me out after if she wasnt really interested.
I would definitely say she has lost interest based on what she said. She could be telling the truth, maybe not. Maybe she met someone else, you'll probably never know for sure. I don't think you did anything wrong at all, just the way things go. It's happened to me many times, we'd go on several dates and I think things are going great and then nothing. If I were you, I wouldn't do anything further and let it go.
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