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I'm looking for a job & as much as my wife wants to work she needs to stay here. My mom I well.. more or less on her way out omeone needs to be here until hospice can come.
My beloved Mom had hospice care when cancer had taken her health. When someone has a disease like cancer they don't always say positive words & thoughts to family, loved ones, & friends. Some words they say can hurt feelings. In their normal mind, they wouldn't want to hurt the feelings of anyone. The loved one might not always be coherent, & ramble on.....
My beloved Mom had hospice care when cancer had taken her health. When someone has a disease like cancer they don't always say positive words & thoughts to family, loved ones, & friends. Some words they say can hurt feelings. In their normal mind, they wouldn't want to hurt the feelings of anyone. The loved one might not always be coherent, & ramble on.....
Yes. My grandpa was out of his mind with pain, medications, and said some of the most awful things to my mom when she was doing everything she could to care for him. They had always had a great relationship. You know it's not really "them," but it is still very painful.
Sounds like they're jealous that their husbands didn't have similar regard for them. I don't know if it's a Southern thing - I think it might just be more of a generational thing, with the South a little bit behind the North in terms of attitudes in a very general sense.
Kind of funny that they're chiding you for being a decent human being. But older generations can be like that when their preconceptions are challenged.
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Originally Posted by NoDoubt1993
I'm a southern girl and every married couple I know consists of spouses who do things for each other....so I'd have to say no, you wanting to be a considerate husband is not out if the ordinary. It could however be an age thing...older married couples (as in my grandparent's age) seem to function more with the wife doing more for her husband...
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Originally Posted by Georgianbelle
Nope not a Southern thing. My dad has always helped my mom and done things for her because he loves her. My goodness just do whatever you want. Your mom's opinion is really not what you should listen to. If it works for you and your wife, that is all that matters. As far as my marriage, we try to do things together. Then, it doesn't seem like a chore, and everything, even cleaning, is more fun.
Sometimes I read opinions here and I have to double back and make sure I read it correctly. Has it really come to this? A spouse/mate can't do something nice for the other? You can't both do nice things for each other? What's the point, then? Ridiculous.
I'm sorry you're in such a stressful, painful situation, reed. Best of luck to you.
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