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I really shouldn't have played a game like that, and I'm sorry. I've told him I'm sorry.
he isn't the type of person to do that. i mean, he still spends most of his free time with me and has flat out told me he isn't interested in other girls. I messed up, and I know that. I'm trying to do better for my life.
I want to make things right. I'm a good person.
Maybe so. But "good people" don't toy with another person's feelings in order to jack up their own egos.
The truth is that you don't really sound like you are interested in HIM and who he is.
You are interested in what he can do for you or how he can make you feel. And your behavior toward him reflects that.
If you really were "all in," you would show it by behaving in kind. He has shown a LOT of patience, and perhaps even a bit of cluelessness toward your behavior. I don't know why he sticks around.
i do a lot of really nice things for him too. like yesterday his car broke down, and I helped him out for 4 hours until it was working again.
he was freaking out about a class last week, so I brought him his favorite candy and left it at his doorstop.
I think he still likes me, and I've really stopped playing these games. I let him know that I care about him deeply often. I think we still have a shot.
I don't need his money. I'm not a gold digger. Anyway, he has to buy quite a few things for the dance I invited him too, and he's willing to do that. He'll probably never wear any of those items again, he's just buying it for me. that's pretty nice of him.
Its pretty doormattish of him...
OP, prepare to be stood up.
Or, if he does appear as ordered, dressed as ordered - you've got yourself a Pu55y.
Own it OP - either you're a game playing minx or you're not.
If you are, you need to dump this guy at the door then proceed to flirt with the Really High Status Men right in front of him.
If you're not, make it a special night for HIM, not for you.
I know somebody that does crap for people but if you wrong them they will remind you of the things they did for me as if they have the upper hand.
You sometimes want to tell them Never do anything for me again if you are going to hold it over my head.
ok, I don't do that. I just wanted show that I haven't been 100% selfish all the time. I'm genuinely affectionate towards him. I did it because I wanted him to feel cared for.
you're right. i should make the night special for him. I'm going to do that.
Even though all of you have been really harsh, I want to thank you for your advice.
Some of us have been DIRECT with you because this is a lesson you need to learn right now.
Telling someone you feel sorry for them is harsh.
Telling someone to kiss you and then turning away is harsh.
Stringing a guy along for over a year and then trying to win him back with cupcakes is harsh.
If you two make it to the semi-formal, thank him for being a great friend and then lay off of romance until you've had some therapy.
the first time I met him I said I kind of felt sorry for him and then asked him to dinner.
1. Schedule an appointment with a mental health professional.
2. Leave this poor man alone!
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