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My buddy got married 4 months ago. Wife's family is lower income, actually borrowed money from the bride and groom to get back home. Latest announcement is the dad lost his job and wants to move in with the married couple with a couple extended family members in tow (all of which are unemployed).
The kicker, my buddy says sex has been slow (4 months into the marriage! ) but whenever the dad is around sex becomes non-existent!
My advice was to shut the door on this idea NOW before they arrive. He then mentioned the sex life is slow as it is. My next thought was to maybe bail on this whole deal........start over with another woman!
But at the end of the day if he loves her he will have to swallow it, naturally I wouldn't want the same problem but for the one I love I would suffer it
Wife seemed really into the marriage, the preparation and the reception......like the ultimate party planning but now that the party is over, so is the fun!
She has mentioned quitting her job (decent job too!) and going back to school ......I told him that day has passed (she isn't 19 anymore).
My buddy got married 4 months ago. Wife's family is lower income, actually borrowed money from the bride and groom to get back home. Latest announcement is the dad lost his job and wants to move in with the married couple with a couple extended family members in tow (all of which are unemployed).
The kicker, my buddy says sex has been slow (4 months into the marriage! ) but whenever the dad is around sex becomes non-existent!
My advice was to shut the door on this idea NOW before they arrive. He then mentioned the sex life is slow as it is. My next thought was to maybe bail on this whole deal........start over with another woman!
Moving that family in will probably spell the end of the marriage.
What I can't wrap my brain around is a family putting this crap off on a newly married couple. WTH?!
Obviously, they are all very thoughtless and selfish.
Wife seemed really into the marriage, the preparation and the reception......like the ultimate party planning but now that the party is over, so is the fun!
Sounds to me like she was more interested in the WEDDING than the marriage.
IMO he needs to nip this in the bud NOW!
If he wants to try to make this work, the family can move in under the condition they ALL have a job within 30 days (or less). It doesn't need to be a great job, scores of retailers are hiring for the holidays right now. And then he needs to spell out how much he is going to charge each of them for rent/room and board.
If they can't agree to and comply with that, then not just "no" but "HELL NO!!"
He should see if they can relocate away from her family.
Wife seemed really into the marriage, the preparation and the reception......like the ultimate party planning but now that the party is over, so is the fun!
She has mentioned quitting her job (decent job too!) and going back to school ......I told him that day has passed (she isn't 19 anymore).
If your story is true, which is hard to believe I'll try to help.
Tell your Buddy to grow a pair and tell his new wife that the inlaws are NOT moving in AND she is NOT quitting her job.
Sounds to me like she was more interested in the WEDDING than the marriage.
IMO he needs to nip this in the bud NOW!
If he wants to try to make this work, the family can move in under the condition they ALL have a job within 30 days (or less). It doesn't need to be a great job, scores of retailers are hiring for the holidays right now. And then he needs to spell out how much he is going to charge each of them for rent/room and board.
If they can't agree to and comply with that, then not just "no" but "HELL NO!!"
He should see if they can relocate away from her family.
Funny that was his pitch.....30 days then out. My response was if you can't keep them from coming then no way can you kick them out 30 days later.
BTW one of the extended family members hasn't had a job in 5 years. She smokes 2 packs a day and is in excess of 300 lbs......not exactly what every employer wants representing his business.
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) but whenever the dad is around sex becomes non-existent!
