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If I continue with therapy and do the self work while dating it should be ok right? I mean at least I am trying but I can't fully give up on dating I don't have time.
Um ... what good is "continuing with therapy if you're just gonna flat-out ignore what the therapist says??
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Originally Posted by Gab12
My therapist said I should wait 30 days before doing the sites but... I can't.
Men do not exist to "give you babies" or keep you from being bored. You are in NO condition to date anyone. You definitely should not attempt to be a parent anytime soon.
Um ... what good is "continuing with therapy if you're just gonna flat-out ignore what the therapist says??
Men do not exist to "give you babies" or keep you from being bored. You are in NO condition to date anyone. You definitely should not attempt to be a parent anytime soon.
I mean I don't intend to get pregnant tomorrow. But soon, when I am with someone who will be with me. I am not ignoring my therapist but she is also 30 and married and pregnant and was when she was my age so like I can't just take forever to wait on someone or something to work.
I mean I don't intend to get pregnant tomorrow. But soon, when I am with someone who will be with me. I am not ignoring my therapist but she is also 30 and married and pregnant and was when she was my age so like I can't just take forever to wait on someone or something to work.
It sounds like you need a new therapist. Some of her advice sounds pretty dubious. And you said yourself you plan to ignore the best advice she gave you.
Stop comparing yourself to others. Everyone's life is different. Comparison is the thief of joy.
Why don't you just have kids when you find the right person (and both of you are in the right mindset) rather than having kids just because you reached some arbitrary age. You don't need to have kids by 25, 35 or 45.
It sounds like you need a new therapist. Some of her advice sounds pretty dubious. And you said yourself you plan to ignore the best advice she gave you.
Stop comparing yourself to others. Everyone's life is different. Comparison is the thief of joy.
She is the first therapist I really like. Other than my old therapist who is like 45 mins away. She is really working on the self esteem which is important and giving me all this like weekly stuff to do which is good. I just made the online profile and I am going to delete it I just wanted to see if someone would talk to me and I have had a few messages.... from unattractive guys or one who say "hey sexy" my bf(?) didn't do that. He was a good person who didn't want a hookup and was attractive and just everything you could want in a person.
Why don't you just have kids when you find the right person (and both of you are in the right mindset) rather than having kids just because you reached some arbitrary age. You don't need to have kids by 25, 35 or 45.
I mean I want to be with the right person. I have a physical handicap so I think that pregnancy will be super hard for me and I might need help and I know raising a kid alone would be hard. I also don't want to be like the oldest mom in life. I mean you have kids with higher risk of disabilities, you have a harder pregnancy why would anyone want that?
I mean I want to be with the right person. I have a physical handicap so I think that pregnancy will be super hard for me and I might need help and I know raising a kid alone would be hard. I also don't want to be like the oldest mom in life. I mean you have kids with higher risk of disabilities, you have a harder pregnancy why would anyone want that?
I had my youngest when I was 35. For centuries women have had babies in all kinds of less-than-ideal situations.
You are focusing on all the wrong things. You need to find something fulfilling within yourself and stop trying to rely on outside people (boyfriends & babies) to make you happy. That's not how life is supposed to work.
So he can then have my address to randomly show up at my place and potentially rape me or something? No thanks.
You're not thinking outside the box. Nevermind.
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