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Finding someone attractive is very different than having a crush on them or lusting after them.
And this is what it boils down to: our working model of the definition of "crush".
Personally, I think any kind of attraction, crush, lust, or otherwise is fine as long as it doesn't impact the relationship. In other words, keep your thoughts to yourself unless you have the kind of relationship where you can talk about that sort of thing without stepping on toes.
Just because you're on a diet, that doesn't mean you can't look at the menu. Humans are not inherently monogamous creatures. We're not birds. We're not designed to mate for life. It's perfectly normal to find other people attractive and have a crush. As long as no one acts on it, no harm, no foul.
Just because you're on a diet, that doesn't mean you can't look at the menu. Humans are not inherently monogamous creatures. We're not birds. We're not designed to mate for life. It's perfectly normal to find other people attractive and have a crush. As long as no one acts on it, no harm, no foul.
Your post is very confusing. So can or cannot knock boots with other chicks (bird analogy from you) like the 'foul' thing too but I think it's fowl.
Just because people are in a committed relationship or marriage, doesn't mean their attraction senses disappear entirely, lol.
You could still find other people attractive and what not, as long as you don't act on it if you aren't single.
Ditto. It becomes a problem if it starts to take away from your relationship, or if you develop feelings and/or are tempted to act on it. But yeah, he's got his crushes and I've got mine; we trust each other implicitly, but we tease the hell out of each other over it.
I can look at someone and find them attractive, or drool a little over a six pack.... but that's not a crush.
I can barely work up a crush on a celebrity, which to me is fine. That's all very academic as I don't know them as a person.
I can't think of anyone I know that I have had a crush on. Once, with my late husband, I found a guy at work very handsome..... I totally kept him at arms distance, I didn't want to chat, get to know him or anything. He thought I was very unfriendly. /lol
I feel like if I had a crush I would be unfaithful to my husband. Just the thought of it makes me feel bad. I work out at a gym where my husband works, and it's 90% guys. I was polite and friendly to whomever was there at the time.
One of the guys made a few comments on how I was looking to my husband a few times, so he told me just to be aware that he may have ulterior motives. Now I wear headphones and talk to no one. /lol
I feel that those types of feelings belong to my husband, and I have no right to be giving them to others.
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