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Long story short, a close friend of mine broke up by text message (which I think was wrong). She text her boyfriend something like, "I'm sorry, but I don't think this can work out."
He did not respond at all to the text message. In fact, a month has passed and he still has not answered, nor has he tried to contact her in any way, shape, or form.
Recently, she has bumped into him in a social setting. He was talking to one of his male friends and completely ignored my friend. She felt hurt by his avoiding her and is wondering if he cared about her at all.
I told her that she is wrong by treating such a good man like garbage (by texting a breakup right before the holidays), and now she's upset with me.
Do you think her ex is reacting in anger by avoiding her completely - even in a social setting - which hurt her feelings- or is it normal to cut off someone completely after they dump you? What could be going on in his mind? I know he cared about her because when they were together, he himself told me that he wants to marry her.
Stay out of all of it, this is between your friend and her ex boyfriend.
You know the guy she broke up with using text......
She got what she wanted and now she has the gall to be upset that he is ignoring her?
Are you all in high school yet?
Long story short, a close friend of mine broke up by text message (which I think was wrong). She text her boyfriend something like, "I'm sorry, but I don't think this can work out."
He did not respond at all to the text message. In fact, a month has passed and he still has not answered, nor has he tried to contact her in any way, shape, or form.
Recently, she has bumped into him in a social setting. He was talking to one of his male friends and completely ignored my friend. She felt hurt by his avoiding her and is wondering if he cared about her at all.
I told her that she is wrong by treating such a good man like garbage (by texting a breakup right before the holidays), and now she's upset with me.
Do you think her ex is reacting in anger by avoiding her completely - even in a social setting - which hurt her feelings- or is it normal to cut off someone completely after they dump you? What could be going on in his mind? I know he cared about her because when they were together, he himself told me that he wants to marry her.
Opinions, please
LOL @ "she felt hurt." Did she expect him to run up and hug her?
It's pretty hypocritical that she's wondering if he cared about her at all after she sent a text like that.
She felt hurt by his avoiding her and is wondering if he cared about her at all.
If she really cared, she would not have done it via text. That's lame.
As a man, I would have handled it the exact same way. If she didn't have the decency to do it in person, she doesn't deserve any more of my time or attention. She deserves to be ignored completely. Can't respect a person like that.
Long story short, a close friend of mine broke up by text message (which I think was wrong). She text her boyfriend something like, "I'm sorry, but I don't think this can work out."
He did not respond at all to the text message. In fact, a month has passed and he still has not answered, nor has he tried to contact her in any way, shape, or form.
Recently, she has bumped into him in a social setting. He was talking to one of his male friends and completely ignored my friend. She felt hurt by his avoiding her and is wondering if he cared about her at all.
What the actual #### did she expect?
Honestly. Chicken #### way to break up. Then all sad because he totally ignored her. Stupidity to think he'd treat her any other way.
I think, he acted appropriately. Did your friend expect him to give her hugs and kisses?
It seems he has moved on, I think your friend should do the same.
She's either game-playing, or a narcissist.
She'd be game-playing because she may have sent the text to get a rise out of him. Have him "fight for" her and show his devotion. Then after she lost, she's upset. The wondering if he ever cared makes this seem possible.
If not that, then she's very stuck on herself to think a guy she dumped through a text before Holidays, should want to socialize with her afterward like nothing happened. Thinking she's so special that he should still be eager for her company after that classless showing. And now that he's not, she feels disrespected. All about her.
He probably feels horrible that she thought so lowly of him she'd dump him with a text. Not even a phone-call to actually talk to him. And right before the Holidays. He is probably wondering if she ever really cared. But some don't do the "fight for" their SO thing. If their SO wants to leave them, they aren't for doing alot of begging to get them to stay - since if you have to beg someone to be, or stay, with you something isn't right. So he feels if something was so bad she'd just dump him, then he feels she apparently just wanted out, and there's nothing to be done, other than try to move on with his life.
Last edited by HappyRain; 12-28-2015 at 10:18 PM..
Long story short, a close friend of mine broke up by text message (which I think was wrong). She text her boyfriend something like, "I'm sorry, but I don't think this can work out."
He did not respond at all to the text message. In fact, a month has passed and he still has not answered, nor has he tried to contact her in any way, shape, or form.
Recently, she has bumped into him in a social setting. He was talking to one of his male friends and completely ignored my friend. She felt hurt by his avoiding her and is wondering if he cared about her at all.
I told her that she is wrong by treating such a good man like garbage (by texting a breakup right before the holidays), and now she's upset with me.
Do you think her ex is reacting in anger by avoiding her completely - even in a social setting - which hurt her feelings- or is it normal to cut off someone completely after they dump you? What could be going on in his mind? I know he cared about her because when they were together, he himself told me that he wants to marry her.
Opinions, please
What??! What was she expecting--to be comforted for breaking up with him?! SHE dumped HIM. Has it ever crossed her mind that he could be hurt, and the best he can do to deal with the pain is to avoid her? Is everything always about her, and what SHE wants, and what SHE feels? I think he was lucky that she broke up with him. She sounds unbelievably self-centered.
"What could be going on in his mind?" The man is in pain! Why is that so hard to understand? And he's probably angry. This is normal. It's very strange that your friend is behaving as though she's the one who was rejected.
Your friend is remarkably cold, unfeeling, and self-centered. She needs professional help. Was she a spoiled child, perhaps an only child? Her thinking process is not normal.
Long story short, a close friend of mine broke up by text message (which I think was wrong). She text her boyfriend something like, "I'm sorry, but I don't think this can work out."
He did not respond at all to the text message. In fact, a month has passed and he still has not answered, nor has he tried to contact her in any way, shape, or form.
Recently, she has bumped into him in a social setting. He was talking to one of his male friends and completely ignored my friend. She felt hurt by his avoiding her and is wondering if he cared about her at all.
I told her that she is wrong by treating such a good man like garbage (by texting a breakup right before the holidays), and now she's upset with me.
Do you think her ex is reacting in anger by avoiding her completely - even in a social setting - which hurt her feelings- or is it normal to cut off someone completely after they dump you? What could be going on in his mind? I know he cared about her because when they were together, he himself told me that he wants to marry her.
Opinions, please
You are right. Your friend was wrong to break up by text message. Now she's "hurt" because he ignored her? He has moved on with his life. She should do the same.
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