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Originally Posted by Sweet Like Sugar
It hasn't always been this way, but I'm becoming increasingly apathetic about dating. Yet I have an online dating addiction and can't really stop browsing.
People like you make online dating a bad experience for many people. You're apathetic yet addicted, so to quench your addiction you probably tend to waste people's time. Do yourself a favor and step away from online dating, get your addiction under control, and become a better person.
That's one reason I don't waste my time trying to meet men online. A person's energy & essence is really in their voice & their presense. People generally keep a guard up to some extent, but then add to that the many walls, layers, and filters of technology and you end up getting (and being) a completely watered down version of a personality. You're not meeting a person; you're meeting a persona. ~ Imagine how redundant that whole charade gets..
That's one reason I don't waste my time trying to meet men online. A person's energy & essence is really in their voice & their presense. People generally keep a guard up to some extent, but then add to that the many walls, layers, and filters of technology and you end up getting (and being) a completely watered down version of a personality. You're not meeting a person; you're meeting a persona. ~ Imagine how redundant that whole charade gets..
You don't ask people you want to date about themselves in the old-fashioned way?
She said quite specifically that she doesn't even care to ask anyone about themselves. She's just addicted to being online and picking out guys, then she stops communication.
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Originally Posted by D217
That's one reason I don't waste my time trying to meet men online. A person's energy & essence is really in their voice & their presense. People generally keep a guard up to some extent, but then add to that the many walls, layers, and filters of technology and you end up getting (and being) a completely watered down version of a personality. You're not meeting a person; you're meeting a persona. ~ Imagine how redundant that whole charade gets..
No no no. OLD is about meeting real people. The profiles are just a way to connect. Within a week or two and after a few messages back and forth you meet. The profiles just tell you that you're both single and looking and if you have some things in common. Then you meet and take it from there. It is 1000% more efficient than real life. I'll meet, when I'm actively doing it, more eligible single women in a month on OLD than I do in years of going about my daily routine. And good profiles ooze with personality. Focus on the good ones.
Nah. I'm not boring. I don't say that to be arrogant or conceited, I just don't think I'm boring.
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Originally Posted by Sweet Like Sugar
Does anyone else feel like trying to get to know people via online dating is really boring?
Not at all, at least not when it came to men I was highly matched with (90+%). I'm an excellent conversationalist, and I don't do small talk but in rare, specific situations as a way to break the ice (I did this on few occasions when I did OLD, but it was done in a salty/cheeky way).
For instance, I remember sending a message like this to a Marine a couple years back. He was new to OKC and didn't have a lot of details in his profile, but he stated he likes to read. So what did I message him?
"Marines can read!? Color me surprised. I don't think picture books count. " or something to that effect.
The conversations flowed nicely if there was some compatibility and a lot of shared interests.
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If not, what kinds of things are you talking to potential dates about?
Religion
Politics
OLD experiences
Shared interests - movies, books, music... other hobbies
Details mentioned in profile
Current events
Past relationships
Family
Kids (a lot of the men I talked to/dated are fathers)
Goals
Upbringing/background
Relationship intent/what they're looking for
On OKCupid, answers to the survey questions
Just whatever came to mind. Within 10 minutes of IMing with my husband on OKC he asked why I identified as "agnostic." He scored serious points.
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