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It doesn't sound like it's getting you anywhere. I don't think it has anything to do with you being "boring." You're just not really interested and I get this vibe that you think you SHOULD be, and that's why you're insisting on trying to date when in reality you could care less.
I don't consider myself particularly interesting. I rather stay at home and play a video game, draw, or work on my school work. The most I do is go to work and go to school. Despite that, I do have quite a bit of people I talk to at school and at work. Ironically enough, I haven't come across anyone that I "like" either. I believe that's just the way it's suppose to be.
It may be the same for you. Don't try to force yourself into doing something you have no passion for. It'll just make you feel bad. I believe everyone just "drifts" at some point their lives.
It doesn't sound like it's getting you anywhere. I don't think it has anything to do with you being "boring." You're just not really interested and I get this vibe that you think you SHOULD be, and that's why you're insisting on trying to date when in reality you could care less.
I don't consider myself particularly interesting. I rather stay at home and play a video game, draw, or work on my school. The most I do is go to work and go to school. Despite that, I do have quite a bit of people I talk to at school and at work. Ironically enough, I haven't come across anyone that I "like" either. I believe that's just the way it's suppose t be.
It may be the same for you. Don't try to force yourself into doing something you have no passion for. It'll just make you feel bad.
The thing is, I have tried to quit. It usually lasts for about two months. But you are right. I'm not really that interested in dating in general. I don't enjoy socializing just for the sake of socializing. However, I do recall the feeling I had that one time I met someone who I really liked. It was years ago, but it was great and of course I'd like to feel that again, so that's what I keep looking for. Unfortunately, everything else pales in comparison and there's no in between for me. I'm either REALLY over the top into someone or I just don't care. But I feel like I have to be content with "Eh, he seems decent. Maybe I should try to get to know him" because that guy comes along way more often than the "Oh my god, I'm in love with him!" guy.
The thing is, I have tried to quit. It usually lasts for about two months. But you are right. I'm not really that interested in dating in general. I don't enjoy socializing just for the sake of socializing. However, I do recall the feeling I had that one time I met someone who I really liked. It was years ago, but it was great and of course I'd like to feel that again, so that's what I keep looking for. Unfortunately, everything else pales in comparison and there's no in between for me. I'm either REALLY over the top into someone or I just don't care. But I feel like I have to be content with "Eh, he seems decent. Maybe I should try to get to know him" because that guy comes along way more often than the "Oh my god, I'm in love with him!" guy.
I know EXACTLY what you mean.
I felt what you're talking about as well about a FEW guys but I haven't felt it in years. There is no happy medium for me either. Either I'm attracted or I'm not. I've tried to force myself to like someone I don't really have any interest in just to give them a shot but it never worked. So I just left it alone all together. If a guy comes along, I'll deal with it then. I believe it's only frustrating because it is perceived as a deviation from the norm. That's why I suggested a break. You can try and get involved with other activities if you want to meet people.
I felt what you're talking about as well about a FEW guys but I haven't felt it in years. There is no happy medium for me either. Either I'm attracted or I'm not. I've tried to force myself to like someone I don't really have any interest in just to give them a shot but it never worked. So I just left it alone all together. If a guy comes along, I'll deal with it then. I believe it's only frustrating because it is perceived as a deviation from the norm. That's why I suggested a break. You can try and get involved with other activities if you want to meet people.
I don't really want to meet "people." I want to meet him. I know that it will be harder to meet him if I don't make an effort to meet people in general, but when I met him before it was easy. He sent me a really nice, non-boring message. I wrote him back and everything was just perfect...for a short while. Why can't that happen again???? I don't even need it to be a long lasting thing. Just that perfection even for a short while would be nice.
Anyways, I now have a time and venue set for the Friday meeting, so we'll see how that goes.
I don't really want to meet "people." I want to meet him. I know that it will be harder to meet him if I don't make an effort to meet people in general, but when I met him before it was easy. He sent me a really nice, non-boring message. I wrote him back and everything was just perfect...for a short while. Why can't that happen again???? I don't even need it to be a long lasting thing. Just that perfection even for a short while would be nice.
Anyways, I now have a time and venue set for the Friday meeting, so we'll see how that goes.
To be honest, you can't expect for something like that to happen again.
Something similar? Perhaps. Something EXACTLY like that? Unlikely.
But why not? Why does it have to be a once in a lifetime thing?
For some people it may be. Because it depends. You sound like you don't form attachment & fondness too easily. So aside from rare exceptions, you may mostly be indifferent to people. So the number of men who just sweep you off your feet may be few and far between, if not a once-in-a-lifetime deal. Far as genuinely being excited and feeling that infatuation for someone.
So you may find it again. But it may be difficult. I wish you luck. But you'll probably have to be more social, deal with people more in order to find him. I know that's a chore for you, and I understand completely. But if you really wanna find him, you may have to really look and go to him.
For some people it may be. Because it depends. You sound like you don't form attachment & fondness too easily. So aside from rare exceptions, you may mostly be indifferent to people. So the number of men who just sweep you off your feet may be few and far between, if not a once-in-a-lifetime deal. Far as genuinely being excited and feeling that infatuation for someone.
So you may find it again. But it may be difficult. I wish you luck. But you'll probably have to be more social, deal with people more in order to find him. I know that's a chore for you, and I understand completely. But if you really wanna find him, you may have to really look and go to him.
Thanks, you always make so much sense. I'm going to send you a message and we'll have a chat.
This is why I prefer to meet sooner rather than later
Everyone's boring
Even Stephen Hawking would be as dull as ditchwater at times
Its whether your boring types match or not = both laying on sofa vs both wandering aimlessly about beaches or repetitively jumping out of airplanes or chasing a tiny ball about a field.
ETA: I'm deeply boring, being of the Passionate About Politics and Religion and Oppression and Underrepresentation Type of Dull.
Most folks eyes glaze over, I get excited
That's my kind of boring, Bonnie Jean! I can do a bit of small talk if necessary, but I like to cut to the good, meaty stuff, ASAP.
Married here, but never accused of being boring. I'm fact, I've been urged by many to write a book. That's how exciting I am.
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I can do a bit of small talk if necessary, but I like to cut to the good, meaty stuff, ASAP. 
