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Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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Originally Posted by CSD610
No. You won't be looking for a place much after 5:00PM - 6:00PM so you still have evenings to go out and you won't be looking for a place all day/evening Saturday or Sunday.
Well I can't agree with this. Most apartment showings in my life were later than this!
After two dates? I'd wish you luck and be on my way; either it's a cowardly excuse to not date me anymore, or you think I'm going to wait in the wings until you get everything in order. If there was more of an investment in the relationship, I'd be more than happy to help you find a new place and get all settled in.
Well I can't agree with this. Most apartment showings in my life were later than this!
You know what, if you do not want to date then don't but don't expect anyone to wait for you until June to go on a 3rd date. If you cannot handle more than a couple things going on in your life you really have no business dating anyway. Honestly, the only one losing out on anything is you so have at it.
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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Originally Posted by CSD610
You know what, if you do not want to date then don't but don't expect anyone to wait for you until June to go on a 3rd date. If you cannot handle more than a couple things going on in your life you really have no business dating anyway. Honestly, the only one losing out on anything is you so have at it.
Who said anything about that? I've lived in apartments for 25 years now. All I'm saying is that most showings for rooms or apartments, in my experience, are nights and weekends.
Do you understand the challenge I'm faced with? Finding a new place that is affordable in a safe neighborhood?
Do u see how I need my mental energy to find the best place possible?
I know that more often than not, I get in my moods where I just want to focus on other things in my life and dating just seems like a hassle that I don't want to deal with. I'd like to think that I'd try to make time for someone who I had a genuine interest in though. I understand that this is a stressful situation for you and it takes priority over other things. Good luck with finding a place!
Who said anything about that? I've lived in apartments for 25 years now. All I'm saying is that most showings for rooms or apartments, in my experience, are nights and weekends.
CSD thought you were the OP there, methinks.
Thing is, it hardly matters what time the showings are, because even going and looking at them this far in advance is pretty silly in most areas I've ever been. I'd only be scoping out listings to get an idea how much I'd expect to spend at this stage. I would actually start making calls and looking at places 1.5 months before time to move, tops. Maybe even less. I can secure a new home within a couple of weeks if I have to, easy.
An affordable one, in a safe area.
Now, if the problem is actually that he had some special arrangment where he paid less than what his housing was worth, and now he's got to get on the REAL rental market and he can't afford what he wants (a safe place in a decent area)...that's a whole other problem, he needs to set the goal of increasing his income or decreasing his living expenses or both. And if his credit isn't good he's going to have to accept less than posh housing regardless.
Others are right. OP shouldn't be dating. Maybe not for a few YEARS. Dating leads to sex. Sex can lead to babies. If this situation freaks him out so much, imagine what would happen if he accidentally reproduced...OP ought to grow up some and get some life skills and goals met first.
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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CSD thought you were the OP there, methinks.
Thing is, it hardly matters what time the showings are, because even going and looking at them this far in advance is pretty silly in most areas I've ever been. I'd only be scoping out listings to get an idea how much I'd expect to spend at this stage. I would actually start making calls and looking at places 1.5 months before time to move, tops. Maybe even less. I can secure a new home within a couple of weeks if I have to, easy.
Oh sure, unless it is a roommate thing a couple of months out, things happen fast. I'm on a month to month now so I need to give 30 day notice on or before the end of the month. The problem I was having when I looked for a new place was that very few places would contemplate waiting the 30+ days for me to give notice, so I'd need to pay for both apartments overlapping for a month. In a decent area, especially an affordable apartment, they go fast. Really fast. If you dont' take it, someone else will within a few days.
I was informed that my building was sold and my lease is not being renewed. So now I have to find a new place to live before June. So I won't be able to see you until June if u want to wait but if not I understand. I need to be focused right now on finding a place instead of going on dates.
Her response was "there tons of free events". I explained to her that I won't be any fun to be around right now and she gets annoyed and ends the call.
Isn't my situation a good reason not to date?
Basically what you told her was that anytime life throws you a curve ball, you need to put everything on hold to focus on that one thing.
Sounds like an excuse
I met and dated my girlfriend while I was in the middle of selling my condo, having random showings at all houses, open houses, staging my place, moving out, storing my stuff in a storage unit, finding a short-term apartment apartment, moving in with parents when I couldn't find an apartment, and then going to open houses every weekend, random house viewings with short noticed, buying said house and then moving in...with my girlfriend. Not once in that 7 months of hell did I think of ending my relationship with my G/F to focus on that. If anything, she was right there with me the entire way and we had a blast.
C'mon people it's only a few months of waiting. Haven't any of you gone on a fantastic first date and then told the person that you had a great time, but you've got some stuff going on and then you'll call within the next 2 years? Doesn't everyone do that?
Obviously, everyone is responding seriously when the OP put this post up as a joke!
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You nailed it. 
