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You are not seeking someone who prizes her virginity, then, because if you broke up with her after sex she wouldn't have her prize anymore. You are seeking someone who has not had the opportunity or inclination to have sex yet.
Am understanding you correctly that you expect her to be a virgin when she meets you, but if she intended on staying a virgin until marriage, it would be a problem for you?
Well, if she won't let me in before marriage, it also means that she won't invite me to join her for her next gynecologist appointment So how will I know?
Well, if she won't let me in before marriage, it also means that she won't invite me to join her for her next gynecologist appointment So how will I know?
Her gyno appointment? Why, so you can have her stamped and certified as a virgin? Gee wiz, maybe the doctor will even let you hold the speculum.
Well, if she won't let me in before marriage, it also means that she won't invite me to join her for her next gynecologist appointment So how will I know?
LOL...what if she presented you with a signed letter from her gyno stating that her hymen is intact? Would that suffice?
Well, if she won't let me in before marriage, it also means that she won't invite me to join her for her next gynecologist appointment So how will I know?
Oh, boy. I think you are not only looking for a virgin. You are looking for a very emotionally damaged one.
Well, if she won't let me in before marriage, it also means that she won't invite me to join her for her next gynecologist appointment So how will I know?
You will know by being an adult and learning to trust. This is why you need therapy to deal with your issues; otherwise, any relationship you have is destined to fail.
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Last edited by PJSaturn; 01-26-2016 at 01:44 PM..
Reason: Off-topic personal attack.
Well, if she won't let me in before marriage, it also means that she won't invite me to join her for her next gynecologist appointment So how will I know?
There's no way to know. And "proof" can be faked. In some countries, women have a fake hymen stitched in. In the old days in some parts of Eastern Europe, women would fake a broken hymen by slitting a chicken's throat and dabbing the blood around the sheets, according to popular legend. There are lots of ways to fake virginity. What you need to do is get to know the woman well enough that you trust her to tell the truth.
You seem to have a problem with trust. You'll never get anywhere in a relationship or courtship, if you keep allowing your mind to mess with you and hobble you, the way you're doing. You've set yourself up to be your own worst enemy, but you're projecting it all onto women.
I am not a religious or squeamish person, but an idea of having as a wife a lady that has [had sex with] another man sounds strange to me regardless of how long ago or why it happened... I want to be the first and only man for my wife. What would be the most delicate and less hurtful way of asking a young lady, in her twenties, if she is still a virgin? Also, since I don't date for fun or sex, how appropriate is it to ask this during the first date (my dilemma here is that, if she's not, I'm no longer interested in dating her; at the same time, if she is, I don't want my asking at inappropriate time/situation to crack the relationship)?
People from North East are especially welcome to comment, since I've moved to New England.
Are you having a laugh mate?
There are the few exceptions of course but finding a virgin in their 20s is very rare to say the least , the only way you have any " hope " of finding one is online dating and put your preference in your profile and go from there. If you ask someone on a first date in person that.......... LOL
As you are expecting your future wife to be a virgin are you abstaining from sex yourself???? ( )
I do understand. If you were very religious, you would be okay with waiting or at least have very strong convictions against divorce. A woman who prizes her virginity--the type that ascribes to the "chewed-up piece of gum" perspective--is never going to give her one and only piece of unchewed gum to someone who says, "maybe we'll have some kind of informal civil ceremony" and is perfectly okay with divorce. Once you chew her gum, it's chewed, and you can spit it on the ground if you want to. Girls like that are probably not going to be okay with you at all.
That's why you should be focusing on virgins who have not had the opportunity or inclination to have sex. The wallflower, maybe someone with a low libido or someone who wants to be in love before sex. Virgins by circumstance, not convictions.
There are the few exceptions of course but finding a virgin in their 20s is very rare to say the least , the only way you have any " hope " of finding one is online dating and put your preference in your profile and go from there. If you ask someone on a first date in person that.......... LOL
As you are expecting your future wife to be a virgin are you abstaining from sex yourself???? ( )
Oh, you misunderstand. He wants a virgin who will have sex with HIM before marriage or he won't marry her.
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Am understanding you correctly that you expect her to be a virgin when she meets you, but if she intended on staying a virgin until marriage, it would be a problem for you?
So how will I know?
, the only way you have any " hope " of finding one is online dating and put your preference in your profile and go from there. If you ask someone on a first date in person that..........
LOL 
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