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It depends on how busy I am at the time but I prefer to date multiple. To me, dating is like a job interview. If I'm looking for a job I fill out more than one application or send in multiple resumes to find out which job fits me best. Same with dating.
I found that if I'm dating one person at a time, I'm more hung up on small details of it like if that person likes me, why they didn't call at the time they said etc. While dating 2 or 3 people, I'm not so hung up on the smallest details. So if guy 1 doesn't work out or disappears.... oh well. I still have guy 2. The key is to be honest about it with your dates.
I'll never date more than 2 or 3 at a time. Just dating though....
When I was dating, it was one at a time. I expected that from the other person as well.
I always gave it until the second date. If both of us weren't hooked by date two, it was over. If I didn't like him enough to want to focus on a relationship with him, chances are it was never going to happen.
Multiple in the early stages as well, I used to be a one at time type guy but I got sick of women ghosting on me after seemingly decent dates. It's a poor attitude to carry with me I guess, but if they're constantly looking for something better I will too =)
It's an interesting conundrum. On many of these threads it sounds as though guys rarely will hang around for more than 2 or 3 dates if there's no sex. So what are the odds that there's really that much overlap? I mean you can say one thing in theory but I think in practice it's probably not a big deal. And if you're just TALKING, then I'd have no problem at all with multiple dates during the same time period.
Kind of like job interviewing - if you only have one, how do you compare? ha
I wouldn't recommend one at a time unless you finally decide that you want to see if this is "the One". It doesn't mean you have to have to hot and heavy relationships going at the same time. Keep it casual and light. Once you're exclusive, the other starts to think they own you.
It really depends on what you want. If I am not interested in a serious relationship, I date many. If I start getting close with one or two of them, I phase out the others. If you can single one out, then you stop dating the other one. If they are not into having a relationship, then keep dating and look for another. I don't understand the reasoning behind dating one person at a time...especially when you aren't even exclusive. People put themselves in that exclusive category, and may be missing out on someone, for nothing.
Of course doing it my way can **** some off, and they decide to bolt. It's happened, so it's nice to have the backups so you don't dwell on it. IMO, one woman is as difficult, if not more difficult to date than four. With one, you have expectations. With more than one, you don't have as much. As long as you are upfront, there is no more hassle dating more. With more women on your plate, you tend to be more focused, and less complacent, at least I was.
I always dated multiple until one came along that I wanted a LTR with, then I'd drop everyone and focus on building that relationship.
I too learned the hard way about having relationships with more than one, I wouldn't ever jeopardize something good thinking the grass is greener ever again. Its almost always never worth it.
When I can be arsed with online dating, I tend to chat with several guys at a time. Sometimes that will result in multiple "first dates" with different guys. I don't multidate beyond the first date though. It's not that I necessarily think there is anything wrong with that but as an introvert, meeting new people all the time is not my favourite thing in the world. So if I like one guy during the first date, I will drop the others to focus on the person I got on with best.
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