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I recognize the point of people saying whoever asks should pay, but men usually have to initiate early on; we are expected to lead in most cases.
So follow Dissernter's lead--go on low-key dates the first few times. You may not make it past those first few, anyway. Why blow a wad of cash on someone you may never see again?
Don't date because of this? Nah... I've never had trouble mentioning it with tact, why quit now?
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Originally Posted by zentropa
Quality women offer to pay their share on the first few dates. Are you dating low-quality women? Is that the only type of person you can attract?
Oh no, I was just having a conversation with friends and they said they have no idea how I get away with such things... but I do. Haha!
I was just curious if the general consensus among a wider audience would be the same. It seems that this idea of paying half is not well-received by many.
I was just curious if the general consensus among a wider audience would be the same. It seems that this idea of paying half is not well-received by many.
Where do you get that? In fact the overwhelming consensus on CD-R is that couples should split the bill on first dates.
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Originally Posted by MountainHi
So follow Dissernter's lead--go on low-key dates the first few times. You may not make it past those first few, anyway. Why blow a wad of cash on someone you may never see again?
Exactly my point. Let that person earn a dinner date before making that sort of investment.
Just had another thought about this topic. On a first date, I will be more insistent about paying when I do not plan to go out with the man again. I guess so things even up on the short term and I won't feel guilty.
If I see more dates in the future (on my side at least) , I'm more comfortable letting them handle it if they brush off my offer this time since there would be opportunity for me to make it up in the future.
Not sure if other women do this but it might be a good litmus test for how the date went.
Just had another thought about this topic. On a first date, I will be more insistent about paying when I do not plan to go out with the man again. I guess so things even up on the short term and I won't feel guilty.
If I see more dates in the future (on my side at least) , I'm more comfortable letting them handle it if they brush off my offer this time since there would be opportunity for me to make it up in the future.
Not sure if other women do this but it might be a good litmus test for how the date went.
I agree with this. I always offer to pay, but if I like the guy and want to see him again, I will demur if he insists.
What does a girl have to do to "earn" a dinner from you?
She should put out before expecting me to shell out!
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