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In my 20s, I mostly only "noticed" guys in a romantic way when they showed interest in me. And by "interest" I don't mean any specific moves or pickup lines or romantic gestures. I mean - just trying to have a friendly conversation with me, treating me as a person, paying me attention. No "nice guy" routine though.
OP, when you say you never do anything to get noticed, how do you interact with women in general?
OP, when you say you never do anything to get noticed, how do you interact with women in general?
I mean, I have constant contact with women through female friends and female coworkers but when it comes to women I'm meeting for the first time, I never take the initiative to speak to them unless they do it first.
If they do, I'm nice and friendly but it's only very superficially. Not that I've had any bad experiences with women...none has ever been rude to me but you can tell they will only speak the bare minimum with me.
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I mean, I have constant contact with women through female friends and female coworkers but when it comes to women I'm meeting for the first time, I never take the initiative to speak to them unless they do it first.
I can tell in a fairly short period of time if someone is interesting to me. Though I've been wrong. But it takes a little more than just saying hello. That's how I start, tho. Hi, and maybe a comment about something I like or noticed that caught my interest.
I also tend to be honest. Why not? It's who I am.
You do need to show some interest. Otherwise, you're just one of dozens of guys that most women see every day. Even a smile is better than nothing at all, and probably better than some slick pick up line in most cases anyway.
Disclaimer: I may or may not know what I'm talking about, but this is an online forum, so I could be a dog.
I mean, I have constant contact with women through female friends and female coworkers but when it comes to women I'm meeting for the first time, I never take the initiative to speak to them unless they do it first.
If they do, I'm nice and friendly but it's only very superficially. Not that I've had any bad experiences with women...none has ever been rude to me but you can tell they will only speak the bare minimum with me.
Some of the other posters have given you good pointers but at the end of the day it's pretty tough for anyone to give you good advise, tailored to your individual situation. You seem very passive, which is probably one factor. But it's usually never just "one" thing. Have you asked your female friends for their opinion?
My main interests are pretty lonely, that's a fact. I love reading, jogging, cinema and I'm currently writing a book.
Well that is one way to get a convo started with someone of the opposite sex.
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But it takes a little more than just saying hello. That's how I start, tho. Hi, and maybe a comment about something I like or noticed that caught my interest. 
