Second spouses

[soUlwounD]

Originally Posted by RedZin

So, if you were married to a spouse who later became abusive, you'd continue to stay married? You'd still be in love with your abuser? That's ridiculous.

Unfortunately many, many women right in this moment are living like that. Not many of us understand why they continue and why they still want to believe it is love I know many women like that and I still don't understand. 2 of the saddest cases were the ones where another woman suffered 30 years and it stopped not until he died. She still denyes it in her mind, she miss and love him even he beat her several times and sometimes she could not go home. Other one is still in meds for mental problems and sadly even if he would die I don't believe she sees a healthy day in her lifetime. Abusing continued already 45 years and her mind is very damaged. I kind of wish he would die fast so she still would have a change for few years without abusing.

Some women... They don't leave.. It stops only when other one dies. Too often it is this abused woman who dies violently. Some women leave but go back.. And no matter if kids, friends, relatives and officers are trying to help.. They don't leave because they "are in love"...

I hear this often by my own ears and I still cannot believe how they can lie so much to themselves.. It is horrible..

[Ceece]

Originally Posted by PDaisy

This is my thing. I think people (on all matters, no just love) really know why they do things. As society, we're pressured to give appearances. Like I said with the house example. If I can afford a big mansion, I would just tell people "I'm tired of my little house. I want a big one now". Other people would say "The school zone in expensive town is better". Like they can't send their kids to private school or hire a tutor. I'm just saying I wish people would be more honest. I don't think people don't know themselves.

I know me. And I'm pretty sure I know you now...