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With some people it's more obvious. I went on a blind date/double date and just on the drive to the restaurant I had a sense it wasn't going to go well, and I was right. He barely spoke to me, spoke to my friend and her fiance the whole time, like I wasn't even there.
Other times there might be a connection but it takes a little more time to determine that an attraction isn't enough to overcome incompatibilities not readily determined on a first date or meet-up.
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30 sec to 30mins? Do you guys go on a lot of blind dates?
Reason I ask, is if you meet someone online, don't you take a bit of time getting to know each other prior to meeting? via messages/text/call?
I've been on very few blind dates. I've done a fair amount of OLD. Yeah, there is some messaging, but never phone calls, and of course I read the profile and questions.
But I didn't think the question was about getting to know someone, which of course takes time, I thought it was about determining if there is a connection, which to me is a feeling of chemistry.
Reason I ask, is if you meet someone online, don't you take a bit of time getting to know each other prior to meeting? via messages/text/call?
Yes, but in-person chemistry or physical attraction may be lacking in person, especially with the prevalence of outdated pictures and/or fudging details such as height and age.
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Other times there might be a connection but it takes a little more time to determine that an attraction isn't enough to overcome incompatibilities not readily determined on a first date or meet-up.
Or the opposite can happen in that you may find you really like the person and feel you connect with/have chemistry with them but the physical attraction just isn't that strong.
That can happen with smell too. I have a friend who once upon a time met a great guy (by her own admission) but she just couldn't get past his natural scent.
Having only talked on the phone over work matters, I was in love with LH's voice before I ever laid eyes on him. And my BFF's (male) voice has a calming effect on me.
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That can happen with smell too. I have a friend who once upon a time met a great guy (by her own admission) but she just couldn't get past his natural scent.
Having only talked on the phone over work matters, I was in love with LH's voice before I ever laid eyes on him. And my BFF's (male) voice has a calming effect on me.
Smell is a big one. I was at a concert this Friday and there were some cute girls raging next to me but since someone had BO that choked the whole hall, I was in no mood for romantic pursuits.
I see. Then that makes sense. I was assuming everyone here was doing OLD.
I stop internet dating in my late teens and haven't done it since. I much prefer meeting people IRL.
Lol me too.......it's time tested
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