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It's never a good idea to agree to hang out as friends with someone in whom you had an interest romantically and who then rejected you. Nothing wrong it if it happens organically, but never agree to it before hand. Much better to just be noncommittal and say "we will see" and then don't make any special future efforts to hang.
That is about enough cause to never contact her again. That was just harsh LOL.
It really wasn't though.
She did the right thing by being honest with him. If I was in the OP's situation, I would happily move on. I don't think it's really wise to hang around with anyone in hopes of being with them one day. That can cause a lot grief. Newyorker, from what I have seen, seem like a level headed and cool guy. If you can handle being just friends with her, go for it. If you're having second thoughts it may be best to cut contact.
She was very honest with you, and kind. She definitely does not want to be more than friends, so if you can handle that and want a new friend, go for it. But if you're still going to be filled with longing, you probably don't want to go this route. This is really up to you. As for romance, keep looking - there are lots of women out there!
Chicks trying to be cool about friendzoning is even worse. It's really better if she just ignores the message honestly.
Seems like "chicks" can't win. Not say anything, she's a friendzoning game player or tease. She's upfront about not being interested, that's apparently worse according to you. I bet some people would call her rude if she had ignored him. Sigh.
That is just my personal opinion. No way am I hanging out with some lady as a friend (esp after she said this) when we both are single, stupid. Others are more patient and can do that, not me. YMMV
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