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You have a glorified version of him in your head, a fantasy. You're not seeing the stinky-footed, burpin', fartin', pickin', scratchin' version of him. Think about that, and alllll of his bad habits.
You have a glorified version of him in your head, a fantasy. You're not seeing the stinky-footed, burpin', fartin', pickin', scratchin' version of him. Think about that, and alllll of his bad habits.
Yeah that is not true. I see his bad habits ALL the time. He is really hard to love. Think of the song by Lee Brice and it fits him perfectly.
Originally Posted by Howest2008 Originally Posted by Howest2008 That would just turn him on more than normal.....what the OP need to do is demand that he play the game as a TAME adult man making him good MARRIAGE material , and if not OP need to cut off all Sexual Contact with him and we all know that's not going to happen...LOL...
I don't have time to give you my long version so here's the short one..........
If what you said is really the truth , only you know for sure " let me tell you what my best lover ever " told me when I lived down in LA in 1978.
She told me howest2008 you don't know how to separate Love from Sex and I think that is your main problem with this man that is such a complex puzzle for you to solve.........
Sex is a really strong bonding agent that we sometimes mistake for true LOVE.......and you speak of this man as if he is your Soul Mate and don't try and say that you don't. Backing away from sexual activities for 10 month should help you put this man in the friends zone where you can give him a different type of friendship LOVE without doing something like totally not loving him at all. So tell me have you made baby step's toward turning from Lover Love to Friendship Love???
[quote=LowonLuck;43713977]I think we have always had the friendship love, which is why the relationship never worked. That is the part I don't know how to stop. How do I stop loving him even as a friend?[/quote]
howest2008 Make a total complete stop of communication with him " are you sure you want to go that route " ...
How's about just limiting him to a few minutes at the most ( per day ) and giving other men hours per day of attention?????????????
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Clearly, we need a spreadsheet, if not a database, attached to this thread if anyone is going to be expected to even understand "Who's on First", much less give any useful advice.
It helps me to think of LowonLuck's life as a version of the Dukes of Hazzard, where she is Daisy Duke, the lone attractive female in a rural town. All the men in her life are essentially the same good looking but dimwitted Billy Bob Jethro. Most women under similar circumstances would recognize that they in fact had a lot of luck. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Du...cast_photo.jpg
It helps me to think of LowonLuck's life as a version of the Dukes of Hazzard, where she is Daisy Duke, the lone attractive female in a rural town. All the men in her life are essentially the same good looking but dimwitted Billy Bob Jethro. Most women under similar circumstances would recognize that they in fact had a lot of luck. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Du...cast_photo.jpg
"Beats all you ever saw, been in trouble with the law since the day they was born. Makin' their way, the only way they know how. That's just a little bit more than the law will allow."
"Beats all you ever saw, been in trouble with the law since the day they was born. Makin' their way, the only way they know how. That's just a little bit more than the law will allow."
Yeah that is not true. I see his bad habits ALL the time. He is really hard to love. Think of the song by Lee Brice and it fits him perfectly.
So what is it you love?
All I remember you saying is the two of you have some "bond."
That could make you friends, heck you could even lust after someone who is a hot mess.
But LOVE?
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Yeah that is not true. I see his bad habits ALL the time. He is really hard to love. Think of the song by Lee Brice and it fits him perfectly.
Yeah...not looking up Lee Brice...but other than this mysterious "bond" you speak of...you've got nothin'. Did you say you've had smokin' hot sex with him? We know he didn't treat you nice...did he buy you nice stuff?...drugs? So there's no rational reason. And because there's no rational reason you seem to think it's beyond your control so after a bazillion posts on here you just keep repeating your mantra..."we've got a bond". Got it...you're powerless over it...sounds like it's time for a 12-step program - they're everywhere.
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