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Ok someone please tell me I'm not crazy. I've been dating this guy for a little over 4 months now. Yesterday I took down all pictures of him off my Facebook and Instagram. It hurt, but the reason I did this is because he has never posted a picture of us together
Now let me tell you a little bit about my boyfriend. I met him online about a year prior to actually meeting up with him. He immediately asked to add me on FB, and that is because he is VERY active on there. During the first 3 months of being online friends, he was casually dating a girl. He would take her on dates and then later that day post pictures of them together on his Facebook. He even used two pictures with her as his profile pictures. (Which I made him delete a year later when he started dating me).
About our relationship. I think it's going great. He is very sweet, plans the cutest dates for us. I've met all of his friends... He keeps saying how happy he is with me and that I am " hands down the prettiest girl he's ever been with ".
The problem is, he doesn't show that on social media. And it is starting to really bother me. I wouldn't care if I knew he was the type who doesn't post much in general or doesn't post his girlfriends. But he is that type! Usually:/
We're probably going to have a talk about this tonight. Because he is gonna want to know why I deleted all pictures of us. I don't really know what I should say to him or if I should even talk to him about it?
The thing is, yes I do want him to post pictures of us and show me off to the (online) world, but I want him to do it because HE wants it. Not because he feels like he has to after a huge argument
Idk any thoughts guys?
ASK HIM.
He is the only one who knows the answer however, if you base the value of your relationship/life/dates/boyfriend's posts on social media there are many more issues hidden in there somewhere.
*Isn't there a ban on facebook/social media posts/threads?*
It's definitely not my top concern but I can't help being bothered by it. It's been bothering me for a while and it is so unbearable now, I just wanted others opinions before talking to him about this.
Unbareable is a bit dramatic isn't it? Why would the opinion of random strangers mean diddly before you talk to him? You know him, we don't.....
Like I said before, this whole not posting about us on social media thing wouldn't bother me one bit, if he did the same with past girls. But he didn't. He posted pictures with them shortly after he started going out with them. And here's my problem - it bothers me to no end.
Like I said before, this whole not posting about us on social media thing wouldn't bother me one bit, if he did the same with past girls. But he didn't. He posted pictures with them shortly after he started going out with them. And here's my problem - it bothers me to no end.
Once you BOTH realize how insignificant social media is....the easier it will be to move on. All you can do now is talk to him.
Like I said before, this whole not posting about us on social media thing wouldn't bother me one bit, if he did the same with past girls. But he didn't. He posted pictures with them shortly after he started going out with them. And here's my problem - it bothers me to no end.
So he wised up and is now not doing that any longer.
If it truly bothers you to no end, break up with him
If not, drop the drama.
He probably doesn't want you ruining his game. I know that before I was married, I would never post pics of my bootycalls online Because that's how you get caught up in a bunch of drama.
Basically, your just the girl he's sleeping with until a keeper comes around.
OP perceives a difference in how he is behaving with her compared to how he behaved with previous women. To her, he is hiding her from his social media "public."
Facebook may not be a big deal in and of itself to a lot of people, but this isn't really about Facebook. It's about how she feels "less than" because of his altered FB behavior.
You just need to ask him, Izzy. Or get over it and focus on whether he is being a good person to you IRL.
**the Non-Romantic subforum has a ban on FB threads, but so far not here**
My husband wants to keep me so secret he doesn't even HAVE FB.
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