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Are you in therapy now? If not, do you have the resources to see one?
I'm very skeptical about therapy these days to be honest. I've the money for it but I want to save it for other things I enjoy doing (especially travelling abroad). $150/$200 per session is not exactly cheap. Compared to the poor results most people get, let's say it's a huge money making machine.
cognitive therapy works as does meditation. Most participants that say it does not work are assuming that a magic wand comes upon them and suddenly they have a new behavior or positive outlook. It most likely didn't work because vigilance was languishing.
There is no classes or degrees, so unsure how this industry is "professional". Color a chicken in an array of feather colors doesn't make it a peacock. She is giving a service and you (the buyer) are seeking satisfaction.
What are your expectations in this service? What intrigues you about this style of service?
I'd lean more towards an obsession then the actual deed or person. Plus your hormone levels are in constant peak mode, that is quite the battle to conquer....
I'm very skeptical about therapy these days to be honest. I've the money for it but I want to save it for other things I enjoy doing (especially travelling abroad). $150/$200 per session is not exactly cheap. Compared to the poor results most people get, let's say it's a huge money making machine.
Yes it can be; it can be a money pit for the patient, with no return for it. The trick is to find a good, effective counselor who doesn't keep the patient coming in forever, like a cash cow, but that offers techniques to actually help the patient improve and get off the therapy in a timely manner. You need to do some effective internet searches with the right key words, and also interview the therapists you find, and once you've narrowed your search down, try out a few, to see if there's a good match. A good, conscientious therapist can really work wonders for people. S/he can get the patient off of anti-depressants and to a place of joy in life, in a reasonable amount of time. I've known people who went through remarkable transformations over a year or two, but of course, they were dedicated to really working on themselves to bring about that change. They took full advantage of what was offered.
I think it's too bad that therapy is so expensive (look into whether your health insurance will cover it, OP), but if you get a good therapist, it can be an investment in yourself that will pay off for the rest of your life.
I'm 25 and never had sex. Long story short: major trust issues, short temper and anxiety. Tried to kill myself while in college and I still take meds.
Average looks, regular body even though I work out twice or three times a week. I'm currently in a very demanding trainee programme in a major energy company and I'm really tired when I get home. That's exactly when my sex drive is higher.
I started looking at escort ads about 3 years ago but never acted on it. If I like one of the women, I look at the pictures over and over again. It's the first thing I do when I get home. But then it's so expensive I eventually give up on the idea (we're not talking about random, low class prostitutes, you have to pay well for these). I think how many other things I want to buy, that I want to save for that trip abroad, etc.
Is this bad? I thought this would go away but it hasn't.
Once you've got yourself some help with your issues I'm sure it won't be hard to find a girl so she would take your mind off the problem in hand ( no pun intended LOL )
I'm 25 and never had sex. Long story short: major trust issues, short temper and anxiety. Tried to kill myself while in college and I still take meds.
Average looks, regular body even though I work out twice or three times a week. I'm currently in a very demanding trainee programme in a major energy company and I'm really tired when I get home. That's exactly when my sex drive is higher.
I started looking at escort ads about 3 years ago but never acted on it. If I like one of the women, I look at the pictures over and over again. It's the first thing I do when I get home. But then it's so expensive I eventually give up on the idea (we're not talking about random, low class prostitutes, you have to pay well for these). I think how many other things I want to buy, that I want to save for that trip abroad, etc.
Is this bad? I thought this would go away but it hasn't.
i think you will be happier if you dont follow through and decide to book an escort , why not sign up for online dating instead , you can still scroll over the photos but it might lead to something healthier
not having had sex at twenty five is not a big deal , i know someone nearly ten years older who hasnt had it ( as far as i know ) and while they would like to meet someone , they occupy themselves in other ways , they are insanely busy all the time and never met someone special
So I'm guessing you have a hard time finding a woman to date due to the issues you mentioned and/or your training program? Understood. Dating these days is hard, particularly when it comes to dating someone you are actually attracted to.
In any case, I would recommend seeking some help. I wouldn't recommend going that route, but maybe seeing a therapist or something or to try to find some other hobby that's exciting.
I never mentioned anything regarding dating, just having sex. Not interested in dating at all, I have better things to do with my time other than going through drama to be honest.
Once you've got yourself some help with your issues I'm sure it won't be hard to find a girl so she would take your mind off the problem in hand ( no pun intended LOL )
Yes it can be; it can be a money pit for the patient, with no return for it. The trick is to find a good, effective counselor who doesn't keep the patient coming in forever, like a cash cow, but that offers techniques to actually help the patient improve and get off the therapy in a timely manner. You need to do some effective internet searches with the right key words, and also interview the therapists you find, and once you've narrowed your search down, try out a few, to see if there's a good match. A good, conscientious therapist can really work wonders for people. S/he can get the patient off of anti-depressants and to a place of joy in life, in a reasonable amount of time. I've known people who went through remarkable transformations over a year or two, but of course, they were dedicated to really working on themselves to bring about that change. They took full advantage of what was offered.
I think it's too bad that therapy is so expensive (look into whether your health insurance will cover it, OP), but if you get a good therapist, it can be an investment in yourself that will pay off for the rest of your life.
I don't take antidepressants anymore, my meds are just for anxiety these days. Antidepressants had a number of very bad side effects, including ED.
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