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All men, women and people are different. Some pursue with more assertiveness and others take a different approach. Whatever works for the situation, I guess.
I "pursued" a good number of the men I dated, and I've been pursued with more assertiveness by others (these tended to be more extroverted types). I initiated contact with my husband, asked for his number, made the first call, etc. He wasn't passive at all. We were both pursuing each other or putting forth the effort to make our interest known. We're both introverted, but I am probably more assertive in many areas than he is.
So how do you feel to know your husband not the type of man you believe is built to attract you?
I understand your preference, but doesn't this spit in the face of what you claim to stand for?
My personal feeling aside from trying to dissect gender dynamics in to their own little bubbles of difference:
Everyone with something to gain will pursue "it"
Man, woman or otherwise
Last edited by rego00123; 05-13-2016 at 03:14 PM..
Wow, this topic has been discussed to death. Truth be told, I think many guys (not all certainly) would prefer if the women took more of an initiative and let it be known they were interested. I've always taken the initiative because otherwise nothing would have happened. As far as chasing, as I said in another thread I did that once and would never again. In my experience, mature women don't play games. The ones who do have not advanced beyond the high school years. The fact is, men, like women are different. To say that ALL men were bred to do this or that is a gross exaggeration.
I personally prefer it to be old fashioned, the reason I say that is because a woman came up to me and was so pushy with her approach. It put me off of women approaching me.
Built to respond? What exactly does that mean? Please explain. Women are also built to have children. Does that mean all women should have children?
Should and could are two different things. Women are natural helpmates. We are responders. While some women are a little more aggressive/ assertive, we still are women. We cannot negate our physiology. We want to be wanted, needed, and set apart. We are not set apart, if we are the ones that are in an unnatural position to hunt. Can we hunt? Yes, of course. Should we hunt? Only when necessary. Let a man be a man.
All men, women and people are different. Some pursue with more assertiveness and others take a different approach. Whatever works for the situation, I guess.
I "pursued" a good number of the men I dated, and I've been pursued with more assertiveness by others (these tended to be more extroverted types). I initiated contact with my husband, asked for his number, made the first call, etc. He wasn't passive at all. We were both pursuing each other or putting forth the effort to make our interest known. We're both introverted, but I am probably more assertive in many areas than he is.
I like you. You get it. There is no denying that. While you may have initiated the first interest, it became a mutual thing. You didn't maintain he upper hand at all times. You dear, still know how to be a woman, by letting your man be a man.
Many women prefer to take the upper hand because they don't trust the men they are with to lead them. I am guessing you both have a very mutual type of relationship that balances well.
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