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Like maybe theirs something mentally off with them that other people don't like or they chose to not make the most of their lives.
If a person is over 40 years old and has no kids could it be said that something's wrong with them?
What?? Why?! Especially if they're single, it means they've had their act together. And how would you know whether they made the most of their lives or not? Why would that be defined as having kids? That sounds awfully limiting, if you ask me. There are plenty of child-free individuals and couples out there who are over 40 and have had fascinating careers that took them to unusual parts of the world where they were able to make a real contribution to humanity. Some have had several careers, in some cases--concurrent ones, that others can only dream about. Are you meaning to tell us that people like that are somehow deficient compared to the average ho-hum person who endured a job s/he hated, living a life of quiet desperation while raising a kid? You have odd and all too narrow values.
What?? Why?! Especially if they're single, it means they've had their act together. And how would you know whether they made the most of their lives or not? Why would that be defined as having kids? That sounds awfully limiting, if you ask me. There are plenty of child-free individuals and couples out there who are over 40 and have had fascinating careers that took them to unusual parts of the world where they were able to make a real contribution to humanity. Some have had several careers, in some cases--concurrent ones, that others can only dream about. Are you meaning to tell us that people like that are somehow deficient compared to the average ho-hum person who endured a job s/he hated, living a life of quiet desperation while raising a kid? You have odd and all too narrow values.
I know many moms who had their first child after age 40. I have met moms who adopted their child after are 40. Older parents generally make great parents IMO. Do I judge child- free people over 40 negatively? Of course not. Many people should not be parents but are breeders, not parents. Children are not accessories. Thankfully some people decide to not have kids and I respect that decision.
Not having kids by forty (or any other age) isn't always something a person has chosen, and it is poor form to assume that it's the result of conscious choice. Maybe it is, maybe it's not.
Seriously, what kind of planet are we on where someone who not only managed to not get pregnant/get someone pregnant with whom the relationship clearly didn't work out, but also managed to avoid marrying one or more of the wrong person ending up divorced and those are the ones that get judged for allegedly having something wrong with them? Really? So being married multiple times to the wrong people and/or having one or more baby daddies/mommies is the normal thing? Yea ok. That makes sense.
Anyway that's my response to the questions I get being over 40 and never married with (thankfully) no kids. I much prefer pets over kids. So much less expensive and way more loyalty and gratitude from pets than from what I've seen in kids.
No. I don't think less of people over 40with no children. I do think less however, of people who judge others, especially in situations that are none of their business!
Not having kids by forty (or any other age) isn't always something a person has chosen, and it is poor form to assume that it's the result of conscious choice. Maybe it is, maybe it's not.
Not sure if this response is to my post but for most past 40, it's a choice, as there is always adoption and many kids in foster care so if someone is child-free in their 40's I assume most made the decisions to NOT adopt. I am sure there are exceptions. Of course, I don't really care or judge people anyways so that was the question by the OP. Also, I can't tell how old people are by looking at them so there's that, as well.
Not sure if this response is to my post but for most past 40, it's a choice, as there is always adoption and many kids in foster care so if someone is child-free in their 40's I assume most made the decisions to NOT adopt. I am sure there are exceptions. Of course, I don't really care or judge people anyways so that was the question by the OP. Also, I can't tell how old people are by looking at them so there's that, as well.
Do they allow singles to adopt? Or are you assuming that anyone over 40 is partnered up and would have someone to help support and raise the kids? Raising a child alone is extremely challenging and not something every single can afford. And being single after 40 is not always a choice.
Do they allow singles to adopt? Or are you assuming that anyone over 40 is partnered up and would have someone to help support and raise the kids? Raising a child alone is extremely challenging and not something every single can afford. And being single after 40 is not always a choice.
DH and I are retired with no children because we never wanted any. Period, end of story. If other people want to judge us and think less of us because of that, then they're the ones who have issues, not us.
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