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Old 06-21-2016, 04:32 PM
 
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She is not your girlfriend, and never was. Please don't wait for her.
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Old 06-21-2016, 04:32 PM
 
Location: Middle America
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So who's she gonna marry, if not "boyfriend" (since having a boyfriend is "a sin")?
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Old 06-21-2016, 04:34 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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I thanked her for bringing me to her home and keeping me in her life.
That was very classy of you. You two were on totally different paths, and I don't think you fully understood what was really going on.

But you handled this nicely.
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Old 06-21-2016, 04:41 PM
 
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I won't wait for her, after all. After she told me in text, "No more man in my life", I told her in text that after 12 years of online dating, I think the relationship that I had with her will be the final relationship. I don't think that I will have any more women in my life.
That's ridiculous. Just work on you and improve your life. I have never even signed on to online dating before, maybe you should try dating in real life.
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Old 06-21-2016, 05:33 PM
 
Location: Middle of the valley
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I'm sorry for your break-up, but happy you are now free to pursue someone more suitable if you are interested.
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Old 06-21-2016, 05:37 PM
 
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Ultimately this woman never seemed interested in you the way you were interested in her. She seemed to have frequent bouts of not wanting to see you.

It seems it may be best to let her go. She doesn't sound invested in you. And you're continuing to string yourself along by waiting for, and/or chasing after, her.
good advice, walk away from her and dont look back. my guess is that she is done with you, until the next tim she decides she needs you, and starts the cycle all over again. time to end it.
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Old 06-21-2016, 05:38 PM
 
Location: Tricity, PL
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She said to me in text, "We're friends, no sex no sleep over". She recently came back to her Ukrainian church that she had attended years ago. She told me that her church says that boyfriend-girlfriend is sin, and that couples in her church are married. I told her via text weeks ago that I thought about marrying her after 5 years, but honestly, I don't know if the relationship would have lasted that long anyway. She also texted me this afternoon that she wants to be with her God, and she doesn't want sin. She also said in a text, "No more man in my life". I told her that I respect her decision and I will always remember and cherish the times we had together. I also told her that I am happy to have met her and her sons. I thanked her for bringing me to her home and keeping me in her life.
You sure it was Ukrainian church? It sounds more that she is a member of some sect, and brainwashed.
Be happy that all is over now. This relationship didn't had any chance to survive.
Move on. There is nothing worth waiting...
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Old 06-21-2016, 06:02 PM
 
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good advice, walk away from her and dont look back. my guess is that she is done with you, until the next tim she decides she needs you, and starts the cycle all over again. time to end it.
When she wrecks her car again or runs out of Wholefoods gift cards, is my feeling
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Old 06-21-2016, 06:24 PM
 
Location: Northville, MI
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When she wrecks her car again or runs out of Wholefoods gift cards, is my feeling
Haha . But seriously, why whole foods. They were under fire just a few days ago:

FDA slams Whole Foods over 'serious violations,' unsanitary kitchen | syracuse.com

I'd go elsewhere for the time being.
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Old 06-21-2016, 06:26 PM
 
Location: Minnesota
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Spend time with your male friends, take a break from dating and focus on yourself for awhile.
Give her all the space she is asking for plus more!
Wait for someone who really clicks with you. Wait for love.
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