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A couple of weeks? I'm surprised you wouldn't want to know if there's a problem now
But either way it's wrong of him to do this especially after HE said it in the first place.....
Sorry not sure if this was mentioned earlier but how did you respond when he originally said it? If you don't mind me asking
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I think I was like "I'm 40. Why the heck do you think I'd want to get married?"
Meh. We've been having these disconnected interactions for like 4 years now. We get together, have an awesome time, and then he feels exposed and backs away. Obviously, if I wanted a standard relationship, I'd have moved on by now. But he can't seem to get it through his thick skull that I'm just as marriage-averse as he is.
your friend with benefits tells you - in the middle of sex - that he'd marry you if he were 15 years younger? It was kinda weird - I reminded him that at 40 I was not exactly looking to put my trousseau together.
LOL Maybe that's why you are fwb? Just say some smartassss remark back like moot point, you're 10inches too small.
I don't want to hurt him. That's kind of why I asked.
Sometimes it seems like a FWB guy doesn't believe you really just want FWB. Like maybe it's impossiblefor a woman to be having a physical relationship that's going nowhere else. They're worried you're hoping it will turn into more than that.
It's like they're answering an unanswered question: "Yes, I would marry you if it were 15 years ago." As if that makes you feel better... when you weren't wondering in the first place! As if you're lowering your expectations, and they're the only one getting what they want.
Same experience, different wording: "If only I'd met you 20 years ago." Well what? I wasn't holding my breath, it is possible for a woman to live in the moment, without dreaming of wedding dresses
your friend with benefits tells you - in the middle of sex - that he'd marry you if he were 15 years younger? It was kinda weird - I reminded him that at 40 I was not exactly looking to put my trousseau together.
I think I was like "I'm 40. Why the heck do you think I'd want to get married?"
Meh. We've been having these disconnected interactions for like 4 years now. We get together, have an awesome time, and then he feels exposed and backs away. Obviously, if I wanted a standard relationship, I'd have moved on by now. But he can't seem to get it through his thick skull that I'm just as marriage-averse as he is.
LOL just as well you feel the same way about marriages or a full blown relationship...... He'd collapse if you asked him!
But yeah LOL it's a strange one and after 4 years you would think he would know EVERYTHING about you.
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I'd be insulted, but then again, that might just be my personality, so that may be on me. I'd take it as, "I know this is what she secretly wants to hear, and I loved that little thingie she did with that one body part so much that I want to encourage her to do it again, so I'm going to throw her a bone/hint that I don't actually have to commit to or do anything about. That'll keep her happy and keep her doing the things I like. Good girl, good job! Here is your praise/compliment: you're almost good enough to marry."
Yuck. No thanks.
OTOH, he might just have really bad/awkward social skills. Not everyone is a social maestro.
I'll chock it up to men can be clueless sometimes.
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Maybe that's why you are fwb? Just say some smartassss remark back like moot point, you're 10inches too small. 
