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Originally Posted by Miamismo
I was taught by my mom (main caretaker) and beta dad (just kinda there providing) to always be good, do what you're told, work hard, and be nice. Also sent to a Catholic elementary school. I've been a 'nice guy' all my life. I cringed at my bosses' wedding when I was chatting with a co-worker and she said to one girl I was interested in, "miamismo is such a nice guy." I knew right then and there that was my issue, I just didn't want to face it.
Another time, I started to like this other chick and guess what being a nice guy did ? Got me in the freaking friend zone. " He is a nice guy but I can never imagine myself falling for him" Those were her exact words which she told to our mutual friend. For all you nice guys reading this, don't do it. I just bought my ticket for the douchebag train. Happy to be aboard.
It's simple really. A woman wants to lose herself and feel secure in your masculinity-woman are emotional and neurotic enough as is, they don't want a "nice guy" who just conforms to her needs like every other guy does. She needs a man.
This is also why guys get friendzoned.
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That's a big, old negative, Ghost Rider.
Being actually nice isn't a bad thing. Does this mean that sometimes women will only want to be friends with you? Yes. But, conversely, if you're a douchebag all the time, you may not get any more dates than you get right now, but you'll have less women who think you're nice enough to be friends with. This shrinks your available options for female friends who might have girlfriends they'd like you to meet.
So, that really depends... do you want female friends at all? If not, there's no need to cultivate friendships with females, I reckon.
Women of any sort of worth will not flock to you if you're a douchebag. Do women with issues sometimes date guys who are jerks? Sure thing. If you are in this solely to get laid, then have at it.
If you want a relationship, a future, a wife down the road... any of that? There is no need to abandon being a kind, decent human being.
Now, if you are "nice" (with the quotation marks) that's slang for "you do the stuff that makes you seem nice, but you are actually anything but."
Women can spot fake niceness a mile away.
Ask yourself this:
Are you the sort of guy who'd compliment a woman and then, if she didn't thank you for the compliment (let's say she just nodded or what have you) you'd turn around and tell her she was a ***** for not appreciating the compliment? If so, you are not a nice guy.
Are you the sort who'd ask a girl out and if she told you she had a boyfriend (whether she did or not) or that she wasn't interested, would you then berate her for not accepting your invite? If so, you are not a nice guy.
If you would still be cordial to the women in the above examples? You're probably a nice guy who just isn't having much luck with women... but, being nice is never actually a problem unless you're a complete and utter doormat.
And, that doormat thing is only a problem if you get into a relationship and someone takes advantage. It's not usually an issue when it comes to FINDING dates.
Points for you to ponder, fella.
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