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Anyways, I am very much "pro therapy" because I have dealt with others with varying capacities of mental health issues throughout my life. I believe in taking care of one's health in every aspect, whether it be mentally, spiritually, emotionally, physically, etc.
With that said, I am not unfamiliar with therapy; I have seen 3 different therapists over the past 8 years (all have been good in their own rights; I have been forced to see different ones based on moving to different regions).
At the end of the day, I guess it's not the end of the world if I end up single for the duration of the remainder of my time here; it's not like I wouldn't be the first person that happened to.
I'm not sure I 100% cosign with everything you wrote though; I'm not the only female in my circle in my age range who hasn't had a committed long term relationshp in a very long time.
What did the therapists think about your problems with relationships?
Oh Lord...you want me to post transcripts of my therapy sessions?? LOL
No, just the general ideas. Since this is a concern of yours, it would be relevant to talk about what they thought. Has there been a consensus among them on why you are struggling in this area?
Oh Lord...you want me to post transcripts of my therapy sessions?? LOL
I think you said earlier you weren't comfortable giving out personal details of your life, but indulged him with statements about your father. Don't reveal things you don't want to, you've already made the point about not picking losers, and you are correct, a relationship ends for many reasons. You just haven't been in a LTR for awhile. Like many people. No one should go to therapy just because a guy on the internet is making assumptions about their dating life.
No, just the general ideas. Since this is a concern of yours, it would be relevant to talk about what they thought. Has there been a consensus among them on why you are struggling in this area?
OP, don't indulge his desire to armchair analyze you.
You, JAG, seem to take perverse desire in getting anonymous women to confess their "daddy" issues to you. You should see a therapist about that.
Loneliness got the best of me. As I mentioned earlier I live in a city with very few friends here. Also I work a ton. I'm shy and stay in a lot these days. On top of all that, not having had companionship for over a decade makes for a really lonely life. Sometimes I'm ok with it, but other times it just gets rough. I mean, I can go well over a year at a time without ever being asked out by anyone.
Again...I understand there are more important issues in life than being single. It's just been hard for me lately.
That does sound lonely. Have you thought about pushing yourself out of your comfort zone a bit by getting out more? Learn something new, go new places? When was the last time you changed your style?
One year, when I was in my 40s, I decided to grow my hair out, wear more skirts/dresses paired with really femmy shoes, and to accept any and all (polite) invitations. I was asked out on more dates than ever in my whole life and my social life was reborn. I met my husband within a year. It was an epiphany for me to realize that how I was managing my "serene and quiet life" was hampering my social and romantic life.
Sometimes, it's good to mix things up and get out of our limiting routines.
Loneliness got the best of me. As I mentioned earlier I live in a city with very few friends here. Also I work a ton. I'm shy and stay in a lot these days. On top of all that, not having had companionship for over a decade makes for a really lonely life. Sometimes I'm ok with it, but other times it just gets rough. I mean, I can go well over a year at a time without ever being asked out by anyone.
Again...I understand there are more important issues in life than being single. It's just been hard for me lately.
Maybe you can chat with people here to help a bit. We all need some kind of interaction and I get how you're feeling. I really do, hang in there. Just be careful to not make bad decisions out of loneliness.
No, just the general ideas. Since this is a concern of yours, it would be relevant to talk about what they thought. Has there been a consensus among them on why you are struggling in this area?
This is downright creepy behavior.
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