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I have already purchased dating programs and listened to them, and I may consider doing so again because I forgot most of the ideas in them.
If you are going to spend any money, this would probably be your best investment if you are trying to figure out what women want in guys. Much better than what any dating guru can tell you and probably better than any advice you are going to get on an internet forum.
Your looking for a woman to date who will take on your problems as her own? Only crazy chicks would even consider signing up for that.
Dating should be two (equals) coming together with people who add to their (already health) lives.
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I have not, and my psychiatrist has not even suspected it.
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You would do well to get out of the "approach" mindset. This works for a very small subset of guys. It is still pretty low percentage even for them.
In a relationship, most women want a guy who is kind and caring but not suffocating, confident but not arrogant, funny but also serious, passionate but not clingy, and somewhat socially adept.
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If you are going to spend any money, this would probably be your best investment if you are trying to figure out what women want in guys. Much better than what any dating guru can tell you and probably better than any advice you are going to get on an internet forum.
Thanks. Have you applied something from its techniques and it worked for you?
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Do you hope that the woman you are planning to partner with is going to solve all the difficulties you are experiencing in your life?
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Your looking for a woman to date who will take on your problems as her own? Only crazy chicks would even consider signing up for that.
Dating should be two (equals) coming together with people who add to their (already health) lives.
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exactly!!!!
I have not said that I want someone to solve my problems. This is what I said:
I am a 29 years old foreigner and did not want to come to the US (some circumstances made me get over here). But once it happened, I wanted to get a relationship with a woman here, mainly because I want to settle down and want someone to, emotionally, take ownership of my cases. I used to face and overcome many problems of different kinds once I arrived here, mostly alone.
I got one (single-authored) original article accepted subject to minor revisions by a prestigious journal and completed and submitted another manuscript. My professor asked me before “Is it you who has written this?†implying he was suspicious that the work is plagiarized due to its high quality and being very clear and coherent (he admitted that explicitly). I could deliver such works even with chronic depression, anxiety disorder, and other problems that hinder my ability to focus.Still, I have done that with minimal help from my adviser. Now, what I am looking for is a person who is willing to be genuinely happy for seeing me succeed. That person must be a woman who is excellent in showing her sympathy. Such a connection needs to be established as an outcome of mutual interaction rather than happen for being a relative (i.e., mother-son relationship). I also expect to be consoled when I feel that things are getting tough. It is not that I am needy as I do not expect (and even do not like) someone to do my tasks for me. I am sick of people who show interest in me only when they expect a benefit, and want a woman who is genuinely into me, enjoys herself with me and has a healthy attitude whenever an argument emerges (i.e., be solution-oriented and willing to maintain connections).
So I do not want someone to solve my problems. I want a woman who can feel what I feel and be happy for me when something is already done. That means a lot to me, and I would sincerely cherish it. It is how I need affection to be shown.
I have not, and my psychiatrist has not even suspected it.
Thanks. Have you applied something from its techniques and it worked for you?
I have not said that I want someone to solve my problems. This is what I said:
I am a 29 years old foreigner and did not want to come to the US (some circumstances made me get over here). But once it happened, I wanted to get a relationship with a woman here, mainly because I want to settle down and want someone to, emotionally, take ownership of my cases. I used to face and overcome many problems of different kinds once I arrived here, mostly alone.
I got one (single-authored) original article accepted subject to minor revisions by a prestigious journal and completed and submitted another manuscript. My professor asked me before “Is it you who has written this?” implying he was suspicious that the work is plagiarized due to its high quality and being very clear and coherent (he admitted that explicitly). I could deliver such works even with chronic depression, anxiety disorder, and other problems that hinder my ability to focus.Still, I have done that with minimal help from my adviser. Now, what I am looking for is a person who is willing to be genuinely happy for seeing me succeed. That person must be a woman who is excellent in showing her sympathy. Such a connection needs to be established as an outcome of mutual interaction rather than happen for being a relative (i.e., mother-son relationship). I also expect to be consoled when I feel that things are getting tough. It is not that I am needy as I do not expect (and even do not like) someone to do my tasks for me. I am sick of people who show interest in me only when they expect a benefit, and want a woman who is genuinely into me, enjoys herself with me and has a healthy attitude whenever an argument emerges (i.e., be solution-oriented and willing to maintain connections).
So I do not want someone to solve my problems. I want a woman who can feel what I feel and be happy for me when something is already done. That means a lot to me, and I would sincerely cherish it. It is how I need affection to be shown.
I understand you, you want validation from someone other than family and friends which a good woman will fulfill that part of you. If im right rate my comment because I'm pretty sure that's what you need and I know some men who do as well.
also as you said you need a woman who will be there for you during hard times, who will show compassion towards you, Essentially you are looking for love from a person who you can build a strong bond with.
I understand you, you want validation from someone other than family and friends which a good woman will fulfill that part of you. If im right rate my comment because I'm pretty sure that's what you need and I know some men who do as well.
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also as you said you need a woman who will be there for you during hard times, who will show compassion towards you, Essentially you are looking for love from a person who you can build a strong bond with.
Basically, you are right. But it is not validation because this would imply acknowledging and appreciating what is done, and this seems a little bit formal.
To make things clearer, I do not want someone to say "you are a diligent genius" when I do accomplish something. Or "tell me what you did to appeal that unfair decision" (i.e., analyzing what happened). It is emotional solidarity and warmheartedness what I am looking for (and I could not find words other than these two, but they are as close as I could reach).
And yes, bonding is also something I want, and this is why I was so happy in my previous relationship; bonding was so intense and continuous.
26-31 gives a borderline indication of an autism spectrum disorder. It is also possible to have aspergers or mild autism within this range.
Couldn't it be that ADHD/ADD have symptoms which overlap with aspergers? Symptoms that I have and indicate ADHD/ADD are more relevant to the latter than to aspergers.
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