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I have a question- one in which the guys on base have discussed to great lengths.
Would you send your wife to a concert alone? One hour in a half drive each away? Factors- she doesn't enjoy driving at night; concert time 2000 (8pm). Driving in New York can become overwhelming and she's not well versed on the area.
In totality 4.5 hour drive to New York to include parking round-trip, after sunset. Insane traffic of NY and uncertainly pertaining to location of venue.
Any thoughts...i.e. Strong ideal, bad or good..
Not clear on what you mean on send her? Does SHE want to go or not.
I am female I have gone from Toronto to Manhattan for concerts several times all by myself and it was a BLAST! I would do it again in a heart beat. FYI that is like a 12-13 trip ( It is 9 hours straight ... but not really likely anyone could go stright without stopping). I literally left a concert in Toronto, got on a Mega Bus and took and over night ride to Manhattan to go to another concert the next day. Get time. Easy relaxing ride. 4.5 hours driving does not seem like a big deal to me... by why drive. There are other options. Driving in Manhattan in my opinion as a visitor is not pratical. Take the train or a bus... get off and on with no hassel. No worry about parking. The concerts I went to finished 12 or 1 am and I walked back to my hotel alone around 20 to 30 minutes alone. No one bugged me. There were lost of people on the streets and traffic at that time. If she wants to go ... then not sure what the big deal is?
If she wants a worry free time leave a bit early and take the bus or train ( not sure where you are she is coming from).
I love going to concerts!!!! This is my activity of choice and go to several and month during most of the year, but up to 1-2 a week in the summer months. I use to try and go with someone else... but I often it was too much of a hassell and I choose to go alone. Ex I got a front row or lower level ticket and I could only grab the one I am there.
In the last few montsh alone I have seen artists like...
Daddy Yankee (NYC at MSG)
Don Omar (NYC at MSG)
Adele
Sia
Mumford and Sons
Smashing Pumpkins
Paul Simone
Steven Tyler
Cat Stevens
Lila Downs ( in Mexico ... )
These are just a the ones I can remeber!!!! The joy of going solo for me is that I can stay as late as I want!!!
The answer is no.
If I couldn't go with her, I'd insist that she go with friends. Safety in numbers!
I am female and I go to concerts alone all the time. I have never had a problem. In door or out door any type of music. Rock, Rap, Hip Hop, Latin... whatever. People usually pay a lot of get in to concerts and there is lots of security. You more likely to get robbed, assulted or harassed in the parking lot of a grocery store.
I've been to several concerts alone and I live in Chicago. I don't see the problem. What's the big deal? In fact just a few weeks ago I drove myself to a concert that was over an hour away and everything was fine. I had a blast.
She's an adult so why would you have to give your permission for her do anything? She can't make her own decisions? Are you her husband or her father?
100% agreed!!!! This is a concert ... there is crazy amounts of security at these events especially in NYC!!! It is safer then going to see a movie.
Yeah, maybe it's because I grew up in NYC but I'm hard-pressed to think of how going to/leaving a concert that starts at 8pm could be perceived as "dangerous" for a woman. Do the women in your life really require an escort when they go out?
I have a question- one in which the guys on base have discussed to great lengths.
Would you send your wife to a concert alone? One hour in a half drive each away? Factors- she doesn't enjoy driving at night; concert time 2000 (8pm). Driving in New York can become overwhelming and she's not well versed on the area.
In totality 4.5 hour drive to New York to include parking round-trip, after sunset. Insane traffic of NY and uncertainly pertaining to location of venue.
Any thoughts...i.e. Strong ideal, bad or good..
New York City traffic patterns are terrible, particularly if she's hitting evening rush hour. Getting onto either bridges or tunnels can be very difficult and stressful for someone who is not accustomed to it. Basically, she has to be a really aggressive driver to get anywhere. Also, navigating in some high traffic areas can be extremely frustrating. As far as safety, that should not be a problem, since I think most venues are relatively safe. But seriously, if she's going any time near rush hour, tack on like an extra two hours for traffic.
Yeah, maybe it's because I grew up in NYC but I'm hard-pressed to think of how going to/leaving a concert that starts at 8pm could be perceived as "dangerous" for a woman. Do the women in your life really require an escort when they go out?
I live in a major city too and don't get the fear about cities some people have. In my opinion someone is less likely to try and harm you in a very public or population dense place then in an isolated place. If someone does attack or rob you ... if you are in a city there is a higher chance someone it going to see what is happening step in or call the police... if you are in the middle of no where not as likely that someone will see what is happening and be able to offer help. If someone if following you or making you feel unfortable.. just walk in to a store/shop and someone will see and they will usually back or someone else will step in. If you are in a place where everying is closed... it is pretty much fight or flight.
If you are a woman walking alone at night in a major city the key is walking in areas that have lots of foot and car traffic ( ex don't cut through parks, alley ways or areas where there is not a lot of traffic.
Sure, sure, I'm a "feminazi". Is that what you call a grown woman who doesn't require a chaperone to a concert or while driving?
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Originally Posted by Cantabridgienne
Yeah, maybe it's because I grew up in NYC but I'm hard-pressed to think of how going to/leaving a concert that starts at 8pm could be perceived as "dangerous" for a woman. Do the women in your life really require an escort when they go out?
I see this is an issue for you a man just worrying about his wife. You definitely come across as a raging feminist sorry I call it as I see it. Some people just shouldn't get married. I guess the increase in number of women in the US that are deciding not to marry is a good thing. If I was married and my wife never gave a #$%^ I would seriously question why I even married her.
if you are in a city there is a higher chance someone it going to see what is happening step in or call the police...
That's actually not necessarily true at all. People can and do just sit around and watch people getting mugged or assaulted. If everyone in cities stepped in to help people in the middle of crimes, cities would have like zero crime, which they obviously don't. I agree that cities aren't dens of danger, but neither are they like these safe zones. A small town is much safer than a big city. Probably if I took someone from NYC and put them in the middle of Kentucky they'd be terrified and everyone in Kentucky would be laughing at them, so don't act high and mighty about living in NYC.
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