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I believe sometimes the cheater in a relationship is justified. Usually in cases where they're clearly being neglected by their partner, they've mentioned it to their partner and the partner does not care to change or want to make time for them. They should know someone else will.
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Originally Posted by Rome2300
What's going to hurt them more..divorce or being cheated on? Maybe they shouldn't have abused their partner w loneliness and neglect
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No it's the relationship that caused them to cheat. It takes 2.
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What makes leaving them high and dry so much more 'noble' than seeing someone else on the side though??
So why do you ask the question when you obviously have it all figured out in your mind as a way to justify cheating? Are you simply looking for partners in crime?
If one is married there is never justification for cheating--even in the circumstances you have made up. Get a divorce and then see all the people you want. Cheating certainly won't help a relationship.
But, hey, if you're into retribution and hurting someone you've claimed to love by all means cheat.
What is the old saying, "Two wrongs don't make a right."
Divorce takes quite a while, so I can't fault someone for seeing people while they're technically "Married" still.
But I otherwise do agree. At least end the relationship and begin divorce/seperation proceedings before seeing all the people you want.
What makes leaving them high and dry so much more 'noble' than seeing someone else on the side though??
What makes cheating on someone so much more 'noble' than telling them you're going to go have sex with someone else now because you're like some kind of animal who can't control their urges, and letting them decide if they'd like to leave you 'high and dry' instead?
Is it more important to be the first one out the door, or work on your marriage?
I stood before my friends, family, and God at my wedding. I promised to love, honor, and cherish my husband. My word is gold, not many can say that.
Cheating on him doesn't come under love, honor, or cherishing.
Divorce if you desire or need someone else. Don't cheat, word gets around and if you end up divorcing. You'll find dating harder. Once a cheater always a cheater. A good woman doesn't want a cheater.
If you have kids, then they lose respect for you. You think you can keep this hidden? Good judgement trumped by arrogance.
Get into marriage counseling if there is an issue you think you can work out. Be honest, maybe your spouse wants out?
I can answer that one from personal experience. Being cheated on was a whole lot worse than if my husband had just manned up and said "I'm no longer happy in this relationship, we need to go our separate ways".
That's why people cheat. Because they don't have the stones to do the right thing. Cheating gives the spouse an iron clad reason to break up. It forces things forward.
Often, it's done with the intent that the other person will discover it, and do the breaking up for them. It's a weak way out.
When you have been cheated on for 8yrs by your spouse because they have a porn/sex addiction THEN you can get on a forum and spout how you think I caused him to do it.....until then you are so young and naive.
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