is it bad to tell a girl you were nervous (date, women)

[brad alllen]

had a first date with this stunning girl and i was so nervous and she noticed lol

i asked her about a second date and she said "she wasn't sure" due to the fact i was so quiet and it was kind of awkward

should i explain to ehr that i was nervous?

or is that a bad trait

[Jaggy001]

If you don't tell her then there is a good chance you won't get a second date.

If you do tell her, what is the worst that can happen? You don't get a second date.

So where is the downside?

[Hobo7396]

You must try to appear relaxed and confident, which is attractive to most people including women. Saying you are nervous might help, but odds are that this will get a negative response.

[brad alllen]

Originally Posted by Hobo7396

You must try to appear relaxed and confident, which is attractive to most people including women. Saying you are nervous might help, but odds are that this will get a negative response.

then what do i say ollol

[ChessieMom]

Originally Posted by brad alllen

then what do i say ollol

Ignore the above post. Tell the gal you were nervous.

[Miss Ree]

Ask anyone, male or female, what traits they admire in the opposite sex and "confidence" will be at the top of the list. Practice makes perfect so go ahead and ask for a second chance, and good luck.

[intelfan11315]

Doesn't sound bad.

[reneeh63]

Originally Posted by Jaggy001

If you don't tell her then there is a good chance you won't get a second date.

If you do tell her, what is the worst that can happen? You don't get a second date.

So where is the downside?

That she didn't actually notice or think he was nervous and now he's shown his insecurity for no reason.

What is the point of saying you're nervous other than to make an excuse and basically tell her give me a chance just because I was nervous? Do you want her to feel sorry for you and give you another chance? How would you really feel then by roping her in that way?

Just fake it until you make it and you'll naturally develop the confidence you seek rather than just rolling in your insecurities.

[metamorphosis]

I think even confident people can be nervous.

I say to tell her you were nervous, because nervousness is a human trait. I would admire the humble-ness. Just work it into the conversation wiling a chuckle. Don't be too serious. Folks should be able laugh at themselves.

[Stymie13]

Originally Posted by brad alllen

then what do i say ollol

The truth.