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I'm interested in your opinion. I'm debating whether to write my Ex a letter to express my regret about how our relationship ended. I said things out of frustration and disappointment that I want to apologize for, as well as thank her for the good moments. The purpose of the letter is not to get her back.
The relationship ended about 6 month ago, and I'm still thinking about it. I feel a letter to her can get me some closure.
What do you think about that idea? Is it intrusive to contact her out of the blue?
Very intrusive. Write it and then throw it away/burn it. Only YOU can make your own closure - you'll get nothing from whatever response she makes that will help you. Repeat - you have to end this for yourself and make it right FOR YOURSELF.
I'm interested in your opinion. I'm debating whether to write my Ex a letter to express my regret about how our relationship ended. I said things out of frustration and disappointment that I want to apologize for, as well as thank her for the good moments. The purpose of the letter is not to get her back.
The relationship ended about 6 month ago, and I'm still thinking about it. I feel a letter to her can get me some closure.
What do you think about that idea? Is it intrusive to contact her out of the blue?
Thanks
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Originally Posted by reneeh63
Very intrusive. Write it and then throw it away/burn it. Only YOU can make your own closure - you'll get nothing from whatever response she makes that will help you. Repeat - you have to end this for yourself and make it right FOR YOURSELF.
^^^ This. You want closure - work on it yourself. Don't open old wounds - chances are she moved on and closed that chapter of her life. Nothing you will write would make HER feel better, just YOU.
I'm interested in your opinion. I'm debating whether to write my Ex a letter to express my regret about how our relationship ended. I said things out of frustration and disappointment that I want to apologize for, as well as thank her for the good moments. The purpose of the letter is not to get her back.
The relationship ended about 6 month ago, and I'm still thinking about it. I feel a letter to her can get me some closure.
What do you think about that idea? Is it intrusive to contact her out of the blue?
Thanks
It's a terrible idea.
Learn from your mistakes and move on. No contact and time passed is best way to handle it. If you see her in public be polite in passing and just act like your happy with your life. There's no need for an apology, what's done is done.
Youre seeking your own closure, she probably don't even care anymore. It'll just make you look even more pathetic in her eyes.
It's an absolutely terrible idea. Unless you want her to take that letter, show her friends and her new "guy friend" as they all laugh at you. Don't think she won't, she most absolutely will.
Stop looking for closure. Unnecessary.
Just do something else in the meantime. Work towards a goal, get a hobby and immerse yourself in it. Closure in a relationship is useless, you'll never get it. People who sit around looking for closure from a relationship are just people who can't move on. Don't be that person.
As others have said it, write it, never send it, burn it.
Yep. This.
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