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Been dating this girl for over two weeks now. Been on 5 dates and everything seems to be going good. I set up a date for this Sunday to go see the impractical jokers. I asked her to let me know if she wanted to hang out before then. Well, I ended up asking her if she wanted to hang out Thursday or Friday. This has been a common occurrence with her as in everytime I've asked her to hang out she says "Can I let you know?" She does let me know but when I asked her if she wanted to hang out Thursday or Friday. She said Wednesday would be be better or maybe Thursday. Can I let you know? I have made specific date times before with her but even when I say Friday st this time, she still says "Can I let you know?"
She is looking for a better offer?
I think if someone was treating me second to possible offers that have not even come up yet I think I would cancel the next date and when she asks why just say, "can I let you know"?
I don't want to disappoint you, but that is exactly the thing I say to guys when I do not actually want to see them, but I feel bad to openly reject them. Often, after that, I never let them know when I do want to see them and hope that they will not contact me again.
When someone likes you, you are flattered and feel really bad to openly say "I actually do not want to see you, because I am not sure what I want about us/I have a boyfriend/ I do not like you", so postponing the answer is sometimes obvious (although unfair) choice.
Perhaps she just thinks the dates are enough at this loint. I know I like things to start slow. I don't like to see someone too much right away. Perhaps that is what it is but she feels bad saying so. I would consider five dates in two weeks a lot so more is not really needed at this point. If she has been on tha t many formal dates she might still be interrested.
I don't want to disappoint you, but that is exactly the thing I say to guys when I do not actually want to see them, but I feel bad to openly reject them. Often, after that, I never let them know when I do want to see them and hope that they will not contact me again.
When someone likes you, you are flattered and feel really bad to openly say "I actually do not want to see you, because I am not sure what I want about us/I have a boyfriend/ I do not like you", so postponing the answer is sometimes obvious (although unfair) choice.
It's really not THAT hard to say, "I don't think so, but I really appreciate your asking!"
As you can see from the OP's uncertainty, it's so much nicer than letting the guy twist in the wind for days on end. That's really, really mean.
JJ, the girl has told you she wants to go slow. I would stick with the date you already have scheduled.
You already have a date confirmed, yet you want another date before the date? What the hell... ?
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That's really, really mean.
