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Good rappin' skillz. How'd you feel if you were in my shoes seeing your SO giving an old friend of the opposite sex a long, tight hug who you feel is much more physically attractive than you are? Quick hugs are perfectly fine. To me, long tight hugs where "private parts" are in close proximity are to be reserved for 2 people in a relationship. Like I said in an earlier post, I was raised in a conservative Catholic family that never hugged each other, even my parents didn't hug each other. So once I got out in the real world, I honestly thought long tight hugs were a form of flirting since the man can feel the woman's boobs
Unless he's feeling them with his hands - let it go..
Good rappin' skillz. How'd you feel if you were in my shoes seeing your SO giving an old friend of the opposite sex a long, tight hug who you feel is much more physically attractive than you are? Quick hugs are perfectly fine. To me, long tight hugs where "private parts" are in close proximity are to be reserved for 2 people in a relationship. Like I said in an earlier post, I was raised in a conservative Catholic family that never hugged each other, even my parents didn't hug each other. So once I got out in the real world, I honestly thought long tight hugs were a form of flirting since the man can feel the woman's boobs
If you think you are soooo unattractive, then give yourself a make-over. Change your hair style/color, start going to the gym and change your eating habits so you lose weight and get into better physical shape (this will also help your mental state of mind which, I must say, needs some serious work). Instead of focusing on what you think are your worst physical features, try playing up what you (or your bf) thinks are your best. Always keep in mind, though, that a pretty face and body cannot and never will make up for a less than stellar outlook on life and on one's personal situation.
Funny you bring up your religious background. Some of the most affectionate men I know were raised Catholic.
Bottom line, you try dictating your bf's friendships and how he interacts with other people, you WILL lose him. Men worth being with don't like being with women who try to own and control them, and they don't allow that scenario to develop. The best thing you as a woman can bring to any relationship is the self-confidence that your life will be just fine without him in it. That will attract more men than any triple-D chest ever could.
I think nothing of a hug (assuming an appropriate one). Giving someone in your past a hug isn't living in the past... I don't think hugging someone is sexual in nature. In some cultures it is natural to hug/touch or even kiss on the cheeks when you greet someone you value in your life. A tiny bit more welcoming than a simple handshake that you would extend to a stranger or an acquaintance.
I don't hug any of my female friends if they aren't single. A handshake will do.
Curious (not judging). If they are single, would it be ok to hug them even if there is no further relationship between other than friends? Does it change if you are single or not?
If you are greeted by a couple you are close to. Are you more likely to hug the guy and not his SO?
Okay, so you are a hug timer....... how many seconds is okay? Is there a range, or a specific number? Is it based upon how long they dated?
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Curious (not judging). If they are single, would it be ok to hug them even if there is no further relationship between other than friends? Does it change if you are single or not?
If you are greeted by a couple you are close to. Are you more likely to hug the guy and not his SO?
I would only hug a woman if she's ok with it when she's single. If she has a boyfriend or is married she might want a hug but I'll tell her to shake my hand out of respect for her relationship.
I would only hug a woman if she's ok with it when she's single. If she has a boyfriend or is married she might want a hug but I'll tell her to shake my hand out of respect for her relationship.
Ok.. thanks for the answer..
So it is more out of respect (for the SO) than avoidance of any unintended "messages". It think this is more a cultural thing... perhaps varies even locale to locale within the US. I do notice women (of different backgrounds) are more open to a hug up here in the north east than when I was in the south... just a loose observation on my part.
We had a neighbor pass away recently. All his family had heard we had treated him very well.. we had become close. Pretty much all of them gave us a hug at his funeral... even people we had just met.
Some person repeatedly draping themselves over my spouse or myself during a social event would be weird and awkward. A brief hug of greeting or goodbye, approx. same duration as the typical comfortable handshake? That seems normal and appropriate.
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