Do I say anything to him or just leave it alone? (how to, guy)
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So this guy I’ve kinda been crushing on for a while, promised me that he would show to an event this Friday which is a bi-monthly event. Low and behold he never showed, I kinda half expected it but because he promising me so vehemently that he would be there and even brought it up himself a couple of times the last time I saw him, I was a bit surprised he didn't show. Obviously at first I was disappointed but the more the I thought about it the more I kinda understood why he might’ve not shown.
First off, I don’t think he knows I have a thing for him, me asking if he was going doesn’t mean anything because he knows I go all the time, and ask other people if they’re going too. Secondly, while he has been to these events before (rarely) he never stays long, he doesn’t seem to enjoy them and even looks uncomfortable. The times he’s seen me at these events I’ll talk to him for 5-10 min and then walk away and talk to others since I’m friendly with a lot of people at these events, and like I said he typically goes for one drink and then leaves. I had only seen him stay all night once, and that was the first time he went and he was with a close friend of his whom stuck to all night.
That being said, I don’t know if I should bring it up to him the next time I see him that he promised and never showed up in a friendly light hearted manner, or if I just shouldn’t say anything?
BTW I do understand that there’s a possiblity he might bring it up himself, but I’m asking in case he doesn’t because from what I know about him he is a bit ditsy. Also we do not have each others contact info so he wouldn’t have been able to text or email me that he wasn’t going.
If you are going to say anything at all, stop being so coy and say something like .. "Missed seeing you at that 'event' .. hoped you would be there .. we should get together for a coffee sometime .. here is my number/contact information". If you just keep hoping to randomly bump into him, this could go on for years and you will just end up frustrated. Find out if he is worth crushing on and/or whether he even wants to spend an hour with you over coffee.
So this guy I’ve kinda been crushing on for a while, promised me that he would show to an event this Friday which is a bi-monthly event. Low and behold he never showed, I kinda half expected it but because he promising me so vehemently that he would be there and even brought it up himself a couple of times the last time I saw him...
If this ^^^ is the case, and he said this directly to you, I would say something to him, kind of like how Aery put it, not in a blaming tone but in a caring, curious tone.
If you are going to say anything at all, stop being so coy and say something like .. "Missed seeing you at that 'event' .. hoped you would be there .. we should get together for a coffee sometime .. here is my number/contact information". If you just keep hoping to randomly bump into him, this could go on for years and you will just end up frustrated. Find out if he is worth crushing on and/or whether he even wants to spend an hour with you over coffee.
This is spot on. Go for it. And exchange contact info as the other poster mentioned too.
If this ^^^ is the case, and he said this directly to you, I would say something to him, kind of like how Aery put it, not in a blaming tone but in a caring, curious tone.
I should be seeing him Wednesday as we both attend a class together, so I think I definitely will mention it to him in a lighthearted manner.
Low and behold he never showed, I kinda half expected it but because he promising me so vehemently that he would be there and even brought it up himself a couple of times the last time I saw him, I was a bit surprised he didn't show.
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Secondly, while he has been to these events before (rarely) he never stays long, he doesn’t seem to enjoy them and even looks uncomfortable.
This makes no sense. I think there is some missing info here. Or misinterpretation of observed behaviour.
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