23 and never been on a date

[JBT1980]

Originally Posted by Leisesturm

It would appear that even 'average' guys (and gals) have standards that they hold those that they date to. I find that ironic. What is 'attractiveness' anyway? Danny Devito married a woman about his height, and a fairly similar level of "attractiveness" and overall personality, and etc., and they were lifelong and inseparable. Lyle Lovett wrestled way out of his weight class with Julia Roberts, and I don't know if they lasted 2 years.

There is someone for everyone, but only if you are honest with yourself about what you can expect. I used to have a 'Danny Devito' and a 'Rhea Pearlman' in our circle of friends. We tried like hell to get the two of them together to no avail. She had a total crush on a 'Fabio' look-alike, and he (because he had some wealth) would date any young hottie that would give him the time of day, but they always left him for dead after a short while. So sad.

'Danny' and 'Rhea' were right there on the same campus, day after day. Lovely people, both of them. But they couldn't see each other. Because they were so repulsed by their own (to them) 'averageness' they couldn't find it attractive in anyone else.

That's kind of patronizing to say well here's another ugly person just like like you so you should both go out..

I'm kinda unattractive but I still have eyes and wouldn't date a women I think is unattractive just because she's in my "league" looks wise

I'd rather be alone then with someone I find unattractive physically which will probably be the case