Putting the ball in her court, has it ever worked?
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From my limited dating experience it has never worked for me. Sometimes when I've had no other option but to do it, afterwards I think to myself why did I even bother. So dating gods out there, any success stories? Hope is what kills you, but is this 100% true?
"Putting the ball in her court" has a "neither here nor there" feel to it.
Just think about when you "put the ball in her court". When you asked a woman on a date, and waiting for her answer, right? In which case, if she's interested, she wouldn't need the ball in her court; she'll gladly go to your court to get the ball (read: will agree to see you). If she's not interested, she doesn't care about the ball to begin with; she just wants you to walk away and not bother her again.
So if you find yourself "putting the ball in her court", save yourself the wandering and look for a more willing taker.
From my limited dating experience it has never worked for me. Sometimes when I've had no other option but to do it, afterwards I think to myself why did I even bother. So dating gods out there, any success stories? Hope is what kills you, but is this 100% true?
Yes. I attended her leaving meal. Coincidentally she sat next to me. As it was the last time I was probably going to see her I thought why not and make the most of it. We chatted quite a bit, I definitely enjoyed her company despite other colleagues being present. I learnt considerable more than I had previously known about her, it increased my attraction. The next day I sent her a facebook request, she accepted. A day after that I sent her a message saying it was great talking to her and whenever she was free that I'd invite her out for a drink.
She reciprocated in a very polite manner. Her last sentence being that we "could meet up when she was back". Thing is I didn't ask precisely (a bit weird) when she was leaving to go traveling, all I know was that it would be soon. Shes back and forth traveling from home country so she is not away for a big chunk of time. The sentence she used about meeting up, I don't know how big of an excuse this is as what she is doing aka traveling is legit.
Would it be too hasty to give up on her straight away or should I afford her some time at least?
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Originally Posted by Liberty2011
Does this have anything to do with the woman in your other post?
Yes. I attended her leaving meal. Coincidentally she sat next to me. As it was the last time I was probably going to see her I thought why not and make the most of it. We chatted quite a bit, I definitely enjoyed her company despite other colleagues being present. I learnt considerable more than I had previously known about her, it increased my attraction. The next day I sent her a facebook request, she accepted. A day after that I sent her a message saying it was great talking to her and whenever she was free that I'd invite her out for a drink.
She reciprocated in a very polite manner. Her last sentence being that we "could meet up when she was back". Thing is I didn't ask precisely (a bit weird) when she was leaving to go traveling, all I know was that it would be soon. Shes back and forth traveling from home country so she is not away for a big chunk of time. The sentence she used about meeting up, I don't know how big of an excuse this is as what she is doing aka traveling is legit.
Would it be too hasty to give up on her straight away or should I afford her some time at least?
I think it's great you put yourself out there and showed interest in her. The downside to this is she was polite but vague. Is she not actually travelling for four months, like you first thought?
You don't really know her and she obviously has other things going on, enough to leave her job over. Hard to say how things will go in future but I wouldn't invest too much thought into it or let your attraction grow for someone who is only an acquaintance at best. The timing may not be right but she also may simply not be interested.
"Putting the ball in her court" has a "neither here nor there" feel to it.
Just think about when you "put the ball in her court". When you asked a woman on a date, and waiting for her answer, right? In which case, if she's interested, she wouldn't need the ball in her court; she'll gladly go to your court to get the ball (read: will agree to see you). If she's not interested, she doesn't care about the ball to begin with; she just wants you to walk away and not bother her again.
So if you find yourself "putting the ball in her court", save yourself the wandering and look for a more willing taker.
That's about right. Cut to the chase. I'm not big on suspense myself.
It's kind of pointless if things are already struggling to work before you decide to pass the ball.
Giving someone control of the game only matters if they are in the game to win as well.
If you have an interests in something you need to show it if you want any kind of results (good or bad)
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