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From my limited dating experience it has never worked for me. Sometimes when I've had no other option but to do it, afterwards I think to myself why did I even bother. So dating gods out there, any success stories? Hope is what kills you, but is this 100% true?
Yes absolutely it works and in my opinion it's one of the wisest and smartest thing a bloke can do when meeting a lady is by putting the ball in her court mate and giving her the time to think and decide on yourself but it depends ENTIRELY on how you go about it.
It also depends on the situation/scenario but for example .....If you can tell she likes you but she's slightly hesitant for whatever reason and unsure then just a simple " ( her name ) I'd really would like to see you again my love as I think you're special, if you'd like to go out for a drink sometime and see if I'm for you then I'd be delighted, if I'm not for you then that's fine and no problem " will suffice. This shows you're keen to see her, understanding and it will help take away any pressure or expections that many might associate with a date leaving the ball firmly in her court so she can go away and think about it ( usually works for me )
However if you're pushy and it's sounds like an ultimatum " look I want out for a drink sometime yes or no? ".... Don't bother!
The way YOU come across is VITAL and what will make or break it in most cases
Women are socialized in relationships. Men are not. Put the expert in the driver's seat. Let your power/ego wander. When you come back, you will be a stronger man and you may have a partner for life.
I did this last year with a woman I dated. We'd been on several dinner dates, had sex once, she'd told me that I was "doing everything right" as a guy, yet she was hesitant for whatever reason. So I put it in her court, said "If you change your mind, if you want to take this further, reach out to me." and I stopped all contact with her.
I heard from a mutual friend that she's still "alone, no guy in her life...and miserable." The one guy she actually liked, friendzoned her and she was all butthurt. Her loss, not mine!
Or they're happy you're finally leaving them alone because they aren't interested.
LOL there's always that.
The old, "Don't go away mad; just go away."
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" will suffice. This shows you're keen to see her, understanding and it will help take away any pressure or expections that many might associate with a date leaving the ball firmly in her court so she can go away and think about it ( usually works for me 
