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I was talking with an acquaintance (female). We'd been communicating for about two weeks now and went out once last week.
So I asked her "When are you free?" she said "Saturday." So I set a date. Figured we'd grab something at a restaurant and maybe go bowling, shoot some pool, or whatever. Long story short, she said, "I can meet you someplace..." I said, "I'll come pick you up. Save the gas in your car, I'll chauffeur." So she says, "Just give me a call/text Friday to confirm?" To which I said directly , "(name), I'm not one to 'confirm' something. I'm a man of my word - when I say I'll be there, I'll be there; I believe strongly in consistency."
She seemed a bit taken aback by what I said, then she said, "I've had so many guys not show up, not call....one guy I was supposed to date with, stood me up at a restaurant." I said, "I'm not those other guys; I don't play games or B.S. I'm a man of consistency. When I say I'm gonna do something, I do it. Period."
She said that I sounded a bit standoffish. I countered by saying that I'm direct. What do you think, fellow CD-R posters?
ETA: My dad taught me that a real man is a man who keeps his word. I think he taught me well.
Some poor women are just so used to the BS both sexes must endure when dating that they tend to paint us all with a broad stroke. I've told women, 'Whatever, I'm not him, and *playfully* I'm offended you'd think I'd share his traits.'
but I can dig where she was coming from, I can be a bit brusque, sometimes, unintentionally.
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Originally Posted by ItsRick24
I was talking with an acquaintance (female). We'd been communicating for about two weeks now and went out once last week.
So I asked her "When are you free?" she said "Saturday." So I set a date. Figured we'd grab something at a restaurant and maybe go bowling, shoot some pool, or whatever. Long story short, she said, "I can meet you someplace..." I said, "I'll come pick you up. Save the gas in your car, I'll chauffeur." So she says, "Just give me a call/text Friday to confirm?" To which I said directly , "(name), I'm not one to 'confirm' something. I'm a man of my word - when I say I'll be there, I'll be there; I believe strongly in consistency."
She seemed a bit taken aback by what I said, then she said, "I've had so many guys not show up, not call....one guy I was supposed to date with, stood me up at a restaurant." I said, "I'm not those other guys; I don't play games or B.S. I'm a man of consistency. When I say I'm gonna do something, I do it. Period."
She said that I sounded a bit standoffish. I countered by saying that I'm direct. What do you think, fellow CD-R posters?
She asked for some common courtesy, for you to confirm things the day before, and you were jerkish and a bit of a ______. The end. You know this.. Stop playing.
This type of inane crud and the American Taliban that lurk here are why this forum stinks.
Long story short, she said, "I can meet you someplace..." I said, "I'll come pick you up. Save the gas in your car, I'll chauffeur." So she says, "Just give me a call/text Friday to confirm?" To which I said directly , "(name), I'm not one to 'confirm' something. I'm a man of my word - when I say I'll be there, I'll be there; I believe strongly in consistency."
She seemed a bit taken aback by what I said...
Fine, keep your word by showing up.
But giving her your Black Bart "I'm a man" speech could seem like you were brushing off her concerns, and that you're "too good" to confirm plans, in an attempt to make yourself look better. You had already blown off her request to meet somewhere by insisting that you drive.
Next time do what a gentleman would do and just honor the lady's request. She needs time to know that you're really "a man of your word" and not just one with swagger and speeches.
She wanted to meet. You declined.
She wanted a confirmation text. You declined.
In her shoes, I would think that you do not respect my wishes.
Yep. It's great that OP is all noble and stuff, but we've probably all been in social situations lately where someone else decides to cancel at the last minute. A "looking forward to seeing you tomorrow" text is a nice gesture that you're not too good for.
She wanted to meet. You declined.
She wanted a confirmation text. You declined.
In her shoes, I would think that you do not respect my wishes.
Another vote for this reponse.
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