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I have been unemployed more than a handful of times over the last 20 years. I have been divorced once, and a break up of a LTR the second time that was very similar process as a divorce, because we shared a child. Never once during any of those times did I hole myself up at home and never leave the house.
Maybe you had an issue with depression which was more to blame for your lack of dating, than owning a house.
Well, yes. Of course I was deeply depressed going through a divorce and unemployment at the same time. Plus men are expected to pay for dates. I felt like I had nothing to offer and was very hurt from the divorce. Not that I didn't date at all, I had a couple rebound flings, but nobody I felt like I could have married. The pool was much better in Atlanta and its a shame I wasn't in the right place emotionally then.
I don't really what to get into OLD but that's sort of what he's saying women have too many options online so it gives them a skewed perception of dating and expectations. Especially if you're like myself or AtlGuy and live in a manosphere metro.
I don't really know any guy that has met that many women in just a matter of months using OLD.
Let's assume 60 dates in 6 months that's still an average of over 2 new guys a week. Just doesn't seem natural.
If I dated 60 of the women I've emailed online, I would have been married when I was 25 most likely.
That comes across as serial dating to me I dunno which is fine but that would be on you to put in your profile imo.
It also most certainly does favor women due to the statistics of men and women that are using it.
I really wish women would stop trying to argue that point it makes the discussion feel less intelligent and harder to take serious.
All you have to do is go on PoF and do some searches you will get way more hits as a woman then as a man.
I was agreeing to meet everyone that messaged me. I was really trying to leave no stone untouched. It was a disaster because the vast majority just wanted a hook up, I was not attracted to them in any way, or we were not compatible. A few just did not like me. The one that I met, that I would have dated, was not interested in me. Last I looked, he is still doing the same thing he was doing 3 years ago when I went to the movies with him.
If I was being pickier and weeding out things that I knew were not my thing, I probably would have only went out with 3 of them.
Well, yes. Of course I was deeply depressed going through a divorce and unemployment at the same time. Plus men are expected to pay for dates. I felt like I had nothing to offer and was very hurt from the divorce. Not that I didn't date at all, I had a couple rebound flings, but nobody I felt like I could have married. The pool was much better in Atlanta and its a shame I wasn't in the right place emotionally then.
I left my husband as a single mom with no job. I had no depression. I still went out and lived my life. 48 hours after my sons father left, I packed the kids up and we went to the beach for a week. A few months later we went for a few weeks to the Caribbean. Kids still say it was the best summer of their lives so far.
Divorce and unemployment do not trigger depression by themselves, without an underlying issue going on.
I don't really want to get into OLD but that's sort of what he's saying women have too many options online so it gives them a skewed perception of dating and expectations. Especially if you're like myself or AtlGuy and live in a manosphere metro.
I don't really know any guy that has met that many women in just a matter of months using OLD.
Let's assume 60 dates in 6 months that's still an average of over 2 new guys a week. Just doesn't seem natural.
If I dated 60 of the women I've emailed online, I would have been married before I was 25 most likely. That comes across as serial dating to me or shotgunning, I dunno.
Just wouldn't be my style and it seems like a lot of poofing and one and done dates. Or some sort of a lack of pre-screening, reading profiles and trying to get the gist of someone before you meet them.
It also most certainly does favor women due to the statistics of men and women that are using it. I really really wish women would stop trying to argue that point it makes the discussion feel less intelligent and harder to take serious.
I've seen a lot of women on here say they didn't know what the ratio was so I don't think they understand.
All you have to do is go on PoF and do some searches you will get way more hits as a woman than as a man. You can search for both. No matter what gender you are.
I left my husband as a single mom with no job. I had no depression. I still went out and lived my life. 48 hours after my sons father left, I packed the kids up and we went to the beach for a week. A few months later we went for a few weeks to the Caribbean. Kids still say it was the best summer of their lives so far.
Divorce and unemployment do not trigger depression by themselves, without an underlying issue going on.
You're entitled to your opinion. Agree to disagree.
The kids and I have our own rooms and we still have a few extra bedrooms.
I would just use that to increase your options you're being a negative older woman and just assuming a guy is going to take advantage of you or something. See what I mean?
Turn the negative into a positive and work the situation to your benefit by increasing your options.
Not assume because you're dating a man that rents, and you have a house with extra bedrooms the big bad mean guy is going to soak you or something.
That's a perfect example of a younger woman vs older woman situation where a younger woman would be more open minded and not so negative.
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I don't really know any guy that has met that many women in just a matter of months using OLD.
Let's assume 60 dates in 6 months that's still an average of over 2 new guys a week. Just doesn't seem natural.
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Meeting 2 new people a week isn't a lot if you're trying. I wouldn't want to do it for months on end, personally, but I know more than a few guys and girls that do.
I don't really want to get into OLD but that's sort of what he's saying women have too many options online so it gives them a skewed perception of dating and expectations. Especially if you're like myself or AtlGuy and live in a manosphere metro.
Have you ever considered it is the opposite? That the skewed perception and expectations are on you? Just something to consider.
I found OLD to be a hyper reality of RL. It's the same thing, just on a greater scale.
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I found OLD to be a hyper reality of RL. It's the same thing, just on a greater scale.
Yup, exactly. Greater scale, and a faster one.
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