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Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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Originally Posted by hawaiiancoconut
Empty bottle of Jack Daniels and 4 used condoms?
I'm impressed first, that protection was used after half a bottle of jack daniels.
Second, that they could get it up four times after half a bottle of jack daniels.
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"I don't understand. But I don't care, so it works out."
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Originally Posted by SVTLightning
You win!!!!! Glad there are older people than me here haha
People with good social skills say what they mean and mean what they say when it comes to others.
I don't like playing word games or guessing games with potential partners. Maybe you do. Maybe others do. Maybe I am in the minority to think that you should mean what you say but I would rather reject 100 flakes and wait for someone who has integrity and real social skills.
I think the issue here is that some people are sensitive enough to pick up on nuance, and others need things spelled out in black and white. And I don't mean that in an offensive way - but to read that you think "good social skills say what they mean and mean what they say" is different from what I believe.
People with good social skills put off vibes that are clear to read, with other people who have good social skills. She shouldn't have had to say "I want to cancel this date because I'm too tired", after she had already said "to be honest I'm too tired to drive". To people with good social skills, they read her statement and know that's a cancellation.
Good social skills let people down and allow them to save face. That's why you say "I'm not really looking for a relationship right now" instead of "I'm looking for a relationship but you're fat and ugly and not in my league". Allows everyone to save face.
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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lol well since none of that conversation was part of the thread we are talking about I can guess where you pulled that from haha
If you cant make a good argument you can always be counted on for off topic ones lol
Not off topic. You said telling the truth is never rude. The reality is, telling the truth can be very rude (like how the OP was here), depending on how you say it. How you say things matters. A lot. Almost always.
I think she was interested - not jumping up and down interested - but interested enough to want to reschedule. It would be weird if she was REALLY REALLY interested after meeting him only one time when she was out with girlfriends, but she was interested enough to want to reschedule.
Who knows. I've dated a lot in the last 5 years and I have experiences all over the board. However, this one just reminds me of scenarios where the woman wasn't interested, while I was. There's no lie he should have been tactful and said cool bananas and went with the reschedule. What grinds his gears is that he offered different alternatives that she agreed to, but deep down she didn't have any interest. So it comes off as he should have read between the lines better and she should have stuck with I'm tired can we reschedule for Friday or Saturday. She didn't offer a date to reschedule, so he maybe felt not only am I accommodating to try and make this meeting work, I'm also having to think of the date to reschedule too? I think I'm the only person really interested in this getting off high center.
I've had dating happen all kinds of different ways, but the best dates were the ones that rescheduled, and all the planning wasn't on me. The ball in your court is an honorable tactic, but I have a ball in your court text out now that's been sitting for two weeks with no response. Yeah, we can accommodate all we want, but that still doesn't mean someone is going to "respect" us.
That's why catching someone's interest is so important. People will forgo sleep when they're interested. We hear it all the time. Putting the other person's needs ahead of their own, because the interest is there from the get go. There's nothing wrong with having a fun night together and that be it. Sometimes that person is not meant to be a reoccurring figure in your life.
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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I've had dating happen all kinds of different ways, but the best dates were the ones that rescheduled, and all the planning wasn't on me. The ball in your court is an honorable tactic, but I have a ball in your court text out now that's been sitting for two weeks with no response. Yeah, we can accommodate all we want, but that still doesn't mean someone is going to "respect" us.
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This is why you put the ball in their court and then move on and don't pay it any more mind. If they're generally interested, they will reach out and reschedule. If they're not, no worries.
My first date with my now husband was on a Wednesday night. I worked late, and met him right after work. Follwing that date, we also went out on Thursday. And Friday.
I like first date/meeting nights on week nights too. Less crowded out in public, less stress for walking into a place to meet someone, easier parking. I work late too, which means I get up late, so I can go to bed late. In fact I get to stay up as late as I want.🙌
If she really wanted to meet him, nothing changed. Like he said, he was tired too, we all are at the end of the day. She knew what she was getting into when she agreed.
She was tired and not feeling like meeting that night. Hardly a big deal. It happens. Once shouldn't be a dealbreaker. I don't want to be out with someone that doesn't feel like being there.
Once again, she avoided a mistake.
I agree with this.
Things come up and plans need to get changed sometimes. If I have a particularly trying day at work, the last thing I feel like doing is getting fixed up again to go out at 9:30 - 9:45 at night. I'm too tired!
OP, I think you should have been a bit more understanding.
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