Gay dude here with gay issues (dating, women, sex, advice)
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I'm a nice looking, smart and down to earth latin guy, originally from up north.
I moved to Orlando almost 9 years ago. It's been so difficult making gay friends or even date because most just want sex or the ones I try to befriend have a stick up their behind.
It's been rough to where I just don't really have a social life. Any advice?
your issues are no different that straight peoples issues. start by checking the personals section of the classifieds and look for get togethers that are listed there for gay people. look for websites directed towards gays that have these get togethers in your area as well.
and as zentropa has noted, you might also try expanding your friendship base. get to know people in your area regardless of their sexuality. once you build that base, you can ask them if they know any gay people that might be looking for a relationship. basically you will do the same things straight people do when they are looking for new relationships, the idea is the same you are just looking for a different dating market.
Where are you trying to make friends at? If you're trying at the club, it's probably not going to work because the people are probably just looking to hook up. Almost every gay friend I have, I met through mutual friends. I'd just get involved doing things you enjoy, and try to meet some people that way. Even if they're straight girls, there's a pretty decent chance they'll have some other gay guys as friends too. You could also try to find gay roommates if you're renting (Don't try to date them lol). Both of my roommates are gay, and I've met a few more gay guys through them.
As far as dating, everybody I've dated seriously, I met in person. For example, one guy I met by going up and talking to him when I noticed him making a lot of eye contact with me, and another I met through a mutual friend. I know many people in serious relationships that met on Grindr or Tinder, but I think if you go that route, it's important to be perceptive of the other guy's reasons for talking with you. Some just like attention and will never meet up, some want to hook up once and never talk again, some want "friends with benefits" type of thing, some want friends, and some want relationships. Just make sure you're on the same page.
Are there gay dating sites you could look into? What about meetup groups. They have meetup groups for just about any subject, look into something like that.
What about joining a sports group like a basketball league geared toward your age range, might something along those lines where you could meet people, gay or straight, having friends and not just sex buddies can be a good thing too.
I'm not dialed into the gay community that well, but there has to be guys out there that are looking for more than just breaking one off, you know what I mean here??
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