Curiosity question

[NewYorker11356]

Originally Posted by rbohm

once again you are not getting what i am saying. as i have said many times in the past, i take what others are willing to give, and give what i am willing to give.

as for a woman pushing things along faster than i am comfortable with, that might happen at some point, but hasnt yet(and i am pushing 59). i put others happiness before mine. there are things i wont do to make someone happy, but for the most part, their happiness is much more important than mine is, to the point where my happiness comes from making them happy.

its called being unselfish.

Which is fine, nothing wrong with that whatsoever. Just make sure it never gets to the point where you're basically a doormat for the other person. I'm also unselfish, and enjoy making other happy (dating sense or not), but that doesn't mean I don't have my own desires and thoughts as well.

[lrfox]

Originally Posted by Inacitysomewhere

Just out of curiosity, How long do you date someone until you are sure you want to take things to the next level? Next level being committed relationship. For me, I would prefer to date for quite some time--six months or so--but that does not appear to be the norm.

When it feels right.

I know that's pretty vague, but it's about as accurate of a general answer as I can give.

Most of the time I think both you and your partner will be on the same page and the length of time will depend entirely on you two. You'll feel like it's time and you'll be able to tell that they feel like it's the right time. Sometimes, it'll be the "right time" when you're at a point where you want to get committed, and you want them to know regardless of whether they might feel the same or not. Because if you are ready and they aren't, it's still the "right" time to be honest and see how they respond.

This is one of those things I think I've worried about maybe after the first few days when I've liked someone, but never more than that. Because you typically develop a rhythm and comfort level with someone quickly enough to have a good feel for where they are on this early on. After the first handful of dates, I've never worried about it. It just falls into place. If you feel like you're rushing it, you probably are. If you feel like you're dragging your feet, you probably are. It's just not typically that challenging to tell.

[Inacitysomewhere]

Originally Posted by Butterflyfish

Nothing wrong with that strategy at all. It's smart to not become exvlusive too quickly, IMO. May true love find you. Good luck!

Thanks!