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When I (male) was little, like before 1st grade, I thought I'd get married at 18. I already knew that 18 was the legal adult age, and people told me that adults get married. So I basically put 2 and 2 together. The notion of having a wedding, with all my friends, a cake, and music, made the idea very appealing. (Little did I know that the party isn't for me, but for the bride.) Plus, it was far enough into the future that it was pretty much in the "never" territory.
Of course, after I saw my family argue time and time again right in front of me, as well as observed wives mistreat their husbands on TV, I came to my senses and eschewed marriage entirely. The final nail in the coffin happened last year, when my friends settled down, and became very insular and codependent with their SO's. "Hell no, I won't go" became my mantra.
I was completely opposed to the notion of getting married, since as far back as I can remember. A series of life events nudging my choices led me to do it anyways, at age 28. I knew when I spoke the "vows" that while death might do us part, we would probably not grow old together. There was nothing sacred or true about the words I spoke that day. It was a bureaucratic errand, a mere formality. It wasn't what I wanted, but I was trying to be an adult and do the right thing.
Now...38 and divorced, and happily in love with someone far more compatible with me...I do actually want to get married. In about 2.65 years, to be precise, after my youngest son graduates. Maybe a little later if he needs time to get moved out. I want it to be part of the next phase of my life, marriage to someone I really love. That will be at age 41. Unlike the first one, I actually dream of this wedding. Aiming for: Not too expensive, but so much more meaningful.
My parents didn't get married until their 30s, and my mom always insisted that I graduate college and have a steady job before I did, so in my mind I thought late 20s to 30 made sense. When I do actually get married, I will be 27, so I'll be close to that. My cousin married when she was 25, about 15 years ago, and my parents at the time thought that was really young (I didn't necessarily agree).
I do tend to think people should wait until they are about 25 overall, mostly because there are so many changes happening in the early 20s. Some people outgrow each other. Not that they wouldn't if they were 25 or older, but it seems less likely. That said, plenty of people get married young and last so it really depends on the couple and how they address those changes together.
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