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Welcome to tinder. 100 matches and you might meet 1 of them face to face (if youre a guy). I agree I miss days of being able to talk on the phone and hear a voice. Texting is terrible first impression.
She's not interested. If she was, she would have suggested a time to meet up when her "family's not in town."
And for what it's worth: in the future, when you text a woman and she hasn't yet responded, you should NOT call her. That is, unless you know her at least a bit. If she's interested, she'll respond when she has a moment. Note that "when she has a moment" might not be immediate - people have jobs, have to drive places, etc. If a man calls me or sends me several texts simply because I haven't responded according to his urgent timeframe, that's a very quick way to ensure I will NOT respond.
I once had a guy on Tinder send me a loooooong message - after we had just exchanged a few - telling me that if I did not respond to him within five minutes, he would unmatch me. I responded ... and told him to go right ahead, because as a professional woman I had a job to tend to (it was in the middle of the workday) and was not about to drop everything to message with a demanding, inconsiderate, insecure stranger.
She's not interested. If she was, she would have suggested a time to meet up when her "family's not in town."
And for what it's worth: in the future, when you text a woman and she hasn't yet responded, you should NOT call her. That is, unless you know her at least a bit. If she's interested, she'll respond when she has a moment. Note that "when she has a moment" might not be immediate - people have jobs, have to drive places, etc. If a man calls me or sends me several texts simply because I haven't responded according to his urgent timeframe, that's a very quick way to ensure I will NOT respond.
I once had a guy on Tinder send me a loooooong message - after we had just exchanged a few - telling me that if I did not respond to him within five minutes, he would unmatch me. I responded ... and told him to go right ahead, because as a professional woman I had a job to tend to (it was in the middle of the workday) and was not about to drop everything to message with a demanding, inconsiderate, insecure stranger.
You go girl! Strong independent woman don't need no man!
You go girl! Strong independent woman don't need no man!
No one needs no pain in the okole, irrationally demanding person in their life.
If you don't mind that's fine, but the poster was certainly in the right.
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I once had a guy on Tinder send me a loooooong message - after we had just exchanged a few - telling me that if I did not respond to him within five minutes, he would unmatch me. I responded ... and told him to go right ahead, because as a professional woman I had a job to tend to (it was in the middle of the workday) and was not about to drop everything to message with a demanding, inconsiderate, insecure stranger.
Personally, I hate text conversations. I only use it like that with VERY close friends.
If I like you, I won't forget who you are.
Take it with a grain of salt since apparently I date too slow for most people and am unconventional that way but I really, really hate a guy I just met constantly texting me. Edit: I don't mean I hate the guy himself, I hate the texting.
Personally, I hate text conversations. I only use it like that with VERY close friends.
If I like you, I won't forget who you are.
Take it with a grain of salt since apparently I date too slow for most people and am unconventional that way but I really, really hate a guy I just met constantly texting me. Edit: I don't mean I hate the guy himself, I hate the texting.
Definitely agree. I do plenty of texting, but never use it as a means to get to know someone. I always advise not using the phone to talk to get to know someone, either. I certainly would prefer to make a call when first contacting someone, though.
Texting is good for friends, family, your girlfriend (not dates), people that you know. I find it easier to text with friends or family, and they do, too. Like texting friends while watching a hockey game, about what's going on in the game, texting family members to say hello, etc. I don't like typing long messages in text, but it's convenient for a couple of sentences back and forth.
I plan on contacting her again, it's a matter of when and whether text or calling is better. Stuff comes up and people are busy and I believe her.
Any updates?
I'm surprised at some of the "advice" here. I'd text until you've both clearly established that a call is ok. I've seen a bunch of people giving advice here based on "I hate text conversations!" That's great. However, it's far too personal a view to make a generalized decision on. She's 23 and on a dating app. You've only just exchanged numbers, and you haven't met in person. Keep it simple, keep it text. A phone call is awkward. If you both prefer phone conversations, that's great! But wait until she tells you that's what she wants. Otherwise you're going to come off as too pushy.
You can message her again closer to the weekend if you really want to, but you're already teetering on too aggressive. When she says this week/weekend is no good, your response should be something along the lines of "Ok, have fun, let me know when you have time so we can set something up" and leave it at that. I mean unless you have a really interesting text conversation going on that you can continue, continuing to ask her to do something is just being pushy. You've established that you're interested, and you remain interested. Ball's in her court. Maybe try one more text next week, but hang it up after that because it's not worth it.
It should also be noted that texting someone you met on Tinder or any dating site before the first meetup isn't really "a means of getting to know someone." That's what the first date/meetup is for. The text is to make the introduction, establish a general interest in the person, and make for clear communication leading up to the in-person meeting. Small talk via text and some joking is fine, but keep it light and do the real work in person. Save the phone conversations for after you've met and have established that it's OK. I promise you that a phone call to a 23 year old you matched with on Tinder isn't going to go over well. Don't do it.
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