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With all the Caitlyn Jenner questions out there, let's discuss this scenario. Let's say you've been in a serious LTR with someone for a reasonable length of time. Everything appears to be going well, and you're looking to build a life together. At some point, that person comes out and says they have always felt transgender, and are going to transition.
Would you stand by them? Would you be hurt more than a standard breakup? Why?
I would be pretty hurt that this person wasted my time for so long without saying a word. I think that would be pretty fcked up to hide. I would NOT stand by this persons side.
However, in the Bruce Jenner case (as long as he has a d*ck I will call him Bruce), he was running around in his wife's clothes for years and the whole family knew. Not sure why they are suddenly all so surprised that he wants to be a woman.
If he came out as transgender, I'd wish him well and stand by him as a friend, but would not continue as a romantic partner. I am not a lesbian or bisexual, so I would have no romantic interest in a woman.
I don't think I'd be hurt more than in any other breakup that was due to fundamental incompatibility.
but if she wants to become a he, the romance is kaput
depending of course on how much Im vested and how I am told...if he/she/it divorces me and takes half, or goes about it real shetty than I wash my hands of them
If you are treated in a way that makes you feel as if you were used or treated dishonestly, the reasons for that treatment are not necessarily going to make a big difference in any feelings of hurt or betrayal you experience.
It would depend on the specifics of the relationship. There's no universal answer.
Was the breakup because of the partner being transgendered? I know cases where the couples continued on (to marriage or whatever) even as the transition happened. And in other cases, where the transition was in place, and the partners were aware as they were getting serious that one person was changing.
Sometimes love is love...and gender is irrelevant. Other times there were other issues causing the relationship to end, and it had nothing to do with gender.
It is complicated, and there is not obvious answer.
It may/may not hurt more, depending on how bad the relationship had already got - but it certainly presents a whole bunch of extra issues, especially if children are involved.
I applaud Caitlyn for coming out, while being mindful of the fact she had underage girls at the time who may/may not have enjoyed seeing their dad morph into a Florida Real Estate Lady in public.
It would be hard to know HOW to feel, IYKWIM, but I imagine whole new levels of betrayal would arise.
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